Why are men so dumb?????

Please some one answer what goes on in there thick heads? Is there any one out there who has a traveling spouse and goes threw what i am going threw? Is it me? I just don't get it. I so want to handle this in a Biblical way and it is making it so hard on me. I want to be in the center of Gods will. I m so scared what if i make the wrong decision? What do you do i have prayed and prayed and it seems to be getting worse it is taking its toll on me as a wife ,mother, friend,and woman.what do you do . I just want to be happy and loved and have some one to be there no matter what to know where I stand on there to do list so to speak. Are all men like that do they just write about those guys that call you just to say hey or those that will give it all up just to be with you or is it only in love stories. I need help in so many ways.