Thursday, July 26, 2007
Im still here.
So it has been a while since i have blogged.Why you ask well it has been a rough few days.My dh had to leave after only being home 2 days so that so bummed me out.We have been in the middle of looking for a home.It has been fun and scary I just want to run away far away.Change is hard and scary.You want to and then you get scared. what if i don't like it.We need more space.What if we end up hating the area.I'm not as worried about me as i am my dh.he is one that doesn't like change.Who knows maybe with all this traveling he has done he has seen another side out there other then this small country town .He maybe ready to go more than i think he is.Some times i just want to walk away from it all and start over.is there any one else out there that ever feels that way?We are looking at moving to the big city.I look at it from a point of there are so many more things to do since i do home school there is so much more going on to take the kids to.As i have looked at the homes i have seen there are so many home school's there.I miss my dh so bad I'm not getting to talk to him and i hate it.i have been so down in the dumps i don't want to get out of bed.I want him home so bad i wish i could at least talk to him for more than a good night love you and that's it.I don't know what it is that has gotten into me it seems like i cant get nothing done i mean nothing I'm in slow mode.I wish i could snap out of it.you know some times i want to just drop it all and leave start a whole new life.I just don't know were all this is coming from I have a great hubby and we are happy well i know i am with him. we have a great church .God is so there.Great kids.Just a dead dried up town.Is it because my dh has been gone alot and i just need to see him more.is it that I'm couped up in this small home with 4 kids and no were to put stuff and nothing to go do.What is the Lord doing i wander.I know he has already done so much he has gave me a love like i have never known.The best part is if we move to the big city we will still be able to go to our church.I wish some times i could blink my eyes and it all be done the house picked the bags packed and it all be done.It has scared me in the fact i worry what if i pick the wrong house. we have found well i have found 5 i like a lot. they all are different in size some new some not they are all with in 15 mins of each other. just different developments.as i look at them .which one do i want ones bigger but then the other is new but which housing development do you want. I'm so scared at making the wrong dission.looking at the out side they are all nice some a Little nicer and then the others are bigger. i Can see us all living in all of them but which one will be the best this is such a scary thing. I'm afraid what if i pick the wrong home .go with the nicer looking outside but smaller in side or the average out side but larger in side.what to do what to do.
Thursday, July 19, 2007
My man is home.
I still feel icky but I'm so glad that he is home.it was so nice to get a big hug from him.I really missed him.Why well hes mine all mine.I have been with him way to long and i could not even think about life with out him.Just knowing he is here makes a world of difference even if he is in there with the kids playing the play station it is giving me a time to blog.We have talked about selling our home and getting a bigger one.I love my home i love the area.Just not enough room we have 4 kids in a 3 bed room home and it is packed to the top i get rid of stuff but there seems to never be enough room.I just cant believe he suggested it.You see my hubby is not one that like change at all he will stay in one place for ever it was only by the Grace of God we moved to our home from our double wide.He would have never changed jobs if it wouldn't have been for them shutting down.so it is a shock when he suggest us looking at moving so I'm all on that.I know he sees the space thing is a big problem and It affects me the most it is hard to keep a tidy home when you have no were to put stuff.My dear friend had came over to pick her kids up and i finally told her we were looking and thinking and she said about time you rally do need more space.She has never said anything about my home and she is here all the time and she even sees it is pretty small.three kids would be pushing it but 4 well that done it on the room space.I'm a Little scared what if we cant get approved or what if they say lease option i just don't want to get my hopes up.We always have the holidays at our home and it is packed i could only dream this year having a big room for every one to enjoy there self in and be able to walk and sit down.I'm just scared I'm going to be let down and wish i would have never started looking.I do love my home we have been remodeling and it is nice very nice just small.We talked about building on well the only prob is we would never be able to sale it would put us over the value of our home area.SO i guess i will just trust the Lord and my dh to what he says.
I feel so icky
So i start out the day just so blah.My 2 girls had friends stay with them last night and they had a ball stayed up half the night.They did not go to sleep till 3 in the morn.they were just laying there giggling and telling stories they were no trouble at all.But Me well i was about to fall over dead I'm one of those who cant go to sleep till my kids are a sleep.i would start to drift off and id hear them snickering in there rooms.it made me think back to when i was a child and would stay up half the night.I finally went in there a little after 3 and they were all a sleep thank the Lord.I get up this morning and they all eat and hit the pool i think well i will be able to clean while they are out there.Ha i got dressed and start on my room my dh is on his way home so i like the bed room to look nice so he can come and relax in his own room.Well i strip the bed and bam i start feeling sick.Not now i have way to much to get done i want my dh to come home to peace and relax in his home.Why does this happen why oh why i wander.well as i pray God please help me I need you to pull me threw and its like he said if you would stop putting things off and do them when i tell you to you could just go lay down and rest.Man did that hit me in the face.He was right you see i was suppose to have done my room Tuesday and i didn't and wensday i did some and now here it is Thursday and i feel like i can crawl back in bed and stay there for a while.
Wednesday, July 18, 2007
Pastor Jack Hyles couldnt have said it better myself
You can name anything you want to name, but I am opposed to anything in the world that de-emphasizes the line of difference between the sexes. I believe that ladies ought to be feminine and sweet and lovely and charming. I believe men ought to be strong and masculine and decisive. I’m opposed to anything that makes a man and a woman act alike, look alike, dress alike, or talk alike."
-Pastor Jack Hyles (quote taken from Dr. Hyle's sermon, Unisex)
-Pastor Jack Hyles (quote taken from Dr. Hyle's sermon, Unisex)
I only wish i could be a true proverbs 31 woman
AS i have read about it and what the Bible says it is a hard thing to do .Im so far from it and as i read it shows me how far i have to go to get there.It also shows me how far i have came.If woman would get back to the old ways man there would be so many more home that would stay togather and not be raising kids from diffrent homes.
Proverbs 31 the rest of it.
She has EARNED the right to relax and enjoy the fruits of her labors. Many wives are bums, having a welfare mentality, parasiting off their husbands. This is very wrong. A Proverbs 31 woman wants to work with her husband, to make the marriage and family something to be proud of.
Let me also add here at the end of our discussion, that the advice given from Verse 10 through 31 was NOT given to a woman; BUT, to a man, king Lempel (Verse 1). It was advice from a wise mother, given to her son to help him choose the best wife to marry. Perhaps we should call this passage of Scripture, the Proverbs 31 man, since it is advice given to man. Carefully notice the warnings about alcohol given to the husband in Verses 1-9. No alcohol-drinking man deserves a Proverbs 31 wife. Why should he have a good wife to beat, and be abusive to her? So many men who drink beer, live in sin, avoid church, curse in God's name, and chase women...wonder why they can't find a decent wife. Solomon didn't write Proverbs 31. Solomon never could find the woman of his dreams (Ecclesiastes 7:28). Why? Because Solomon had a reputation, a very bad one. All his wives were the lazy whores who wanted his money...take care of us Solomon...and we'll give you the sex you want. Solomon had many lovers; but, he couldn't find the godly wife that he so much desired. Solomon tried to seduce the beautiful Shulamite girl in Song of Solomon; but, she wisely turned him down, and for good reason. Solomon here represents Satan, who tries to seduce us away from Christ.
This whole Chapter describes a woman who loves her husband and children with all her heart, and works to give them the best. Jesus said that all of the Bible is fulfilled in two commands (Matthew 22:38-40): 1) Love God with all thy heart, 2) Love thy neighbor as thyself. Also, in Galatians 5:14. The woman who loves her husband and family doesn't need books, educational courses, or helps. Through DESIRE, she will become everything that her family needs her to be (Proverb 18:1). It's certainly acceptable for a wife to read helpful books, gaining insight from other women who have already proven themselves godly mothers; BUT, it is not necessary. The Word of God is the only Book we need. All the books, videos, and college courses in the world mean nothing if a wife and mother doesn't care.
In conclusion, there is no such thing as a perfect wife, or husband. The key to happiness in a marriage is two people who are mutually committed to making the marriage a success. Many marriages are lopsided, where one spouse shirks their responsibilities, and the other is continually getting upset because of it. This is unfair. A happy marriage requires a team effort between husband and wife. Many husbands are brute tyrants, who won't allow their wives to live. This is true of religious men especially, who are taught that the wife is supposed to be submissive to her husband. Although the Word of God certainly does set forth the man as the head of his household, it doesn't give him any right to be unkind or abusive towards his wife. Many Christian wives are slaves to a religious jerk. I say this kindly. I believe that God wants every wife to be as the woman in Proverbs 31; but, God also expects every husband to be as the husband in Ephesians 5:25-33. Every husband should be an Ephesians 5 man.
Let me also add here at the end of our discussion, that the advice given from Verse 10 through 31 was NOT given to a woman; BUT, to a man, king Lempel (Verse 1). It was advice from a wise mother, given to her son to help him choose the best wife to marry. Perhaps we should call this passage of Scripture, the Proverbs 31 man, since it is advice given to man. Carefully notice the warnings about alcohol given to the husband in Verses 1-9. No alcohol-drinking man deserves a Proverbs 31 wife. Why should he have a good wife to beat, and be abusive to her? So many men who drink beer, live in sin, avoid church, curse in God's name, and chase women...wonder why they can't find a decent wife. Solomon didn't write Proverbs 31. Solomon never could find the woman of his dreams (Ecclesiastes 7:28). Why? Because Solomon had a reputation, a very bad one. All his wives were the lazy whores who wanted his money...take care of us Solomon...and we'll give you the sex you want. Solomon had many lovers; but, he couldn't find the godly wife that he so much desired. Solomon tried to seduce the beautiful Shulamite girl in Song of Solomon; but, she wisely turned him down, and for good reason. Solomon here represents Satan, who tries to seduce us away from Christ.
This whole Chapter describes a woman who loves her husband and children with all her heart, and works to give them the best. Jesus said that all of the Bible is fulfilled in two commands (Matthew 22:38-40): 1) Love God with all thy heart, 2) Love thy neighbor as thyself. Also, in Galatians 5:14. The woman who loves her husband and family doesn't need books, educational courses, or helps. Through DESIRE, she will become everything that her family needs her to be (Proverb 18:1). It's certainly acceptable for a wife to read helpful books, gaining insight from other women who have already proven themselves godly mothers; BUT, it is not necessary. The Word of God is the only Book we need. All the books, videos, and college courses in the world mean nothing if a wife and mother doesn't care.
In conclusion, there is no such thing as a perfect wife, or husband. The key to happiness in a marriage is two people who are mutually committed to making the marriage a success. Many marriages are lopsided, where one spouse shirks their responsibilities, and the other is continually getting upset because of it. This is unfair. A happy marriage requires a team effort between husband and wife. Many husbands are brute tyrants, who won't allow their wives to live. This is true of religious men especially, who are taught that the wife is supposed to be submissive to her husband. Although the Word of God certainly does set forth the man as the head of his household, it doesn't give him any right to be unkind or abusive towards his wife. Many Christian wives are slaves to a religious jerk. I say this kindly. I believe that God wants every wife to be as the woman in Proverbs 31; but, God also expects every husband to be as the husband in Ephesians 5:25-33. Every husband should be an Ephesians 5 man.
Proverbs 31
She has concern for the less fortunate. This does not mean that she endangers herself by going into bad neighborhoods. It simply means that she donates her time and money (if she can) to help the poor; but, her family always comes first. No mother should ever help others before helping her family. In the real world, many married couples are living on a shoestring and don't have any extra money. Obviously, this Scripture is conditional upon one's financially situation. Howbeit, most Americans can afford to help the poor in some capacity. If you can afford a VCR, McDonalds, etc...then you can afford to give a dollar or two to someone who is poor. A Gospel tract should always be given as well. In today's world, you have to be very careful about giving beggar's money, as some of them are criminals and may assault you. God is simply saying that a godly woman will not be selfish. Look at all the wealthy people in this world, who horde their money. If they do give anything, it is chump change compared to their hundreds of thousands they own.
Verse 21 - She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
Her kids don't go to school improperly dressed. I've seen kids going to school in 40 degree weather with no coat. Many kids don't have a sense of temperature, and don't care if they have a coat or not. A lazy mother who doesn't care won't even notice her kids improperly dressed. This is irresponsible. A godly mother will keep an eye on her kids at all times. So many mothers are idiots--letting their kids wander out of sight, going to school with no lunch, or doing dangerous things. There are plenty of second-hand stores nowadays (my favorite places to shop). Every child should have a warm coat for the cold weather, and shoes without holes in them.
Verse 22 - She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
She knows how to seduce her own husband. She is an expert at love-making. Many wives fail in this area, not romantically satisfying their husband's needs. To a man, sex is much more than just a physical union. The mental aspects of romance must not be ignored. A wise wife will give her husband the expressions, sensualism, and thrills that he needs. If you don't do it, then your husband will be frustrated. We are living in a whorish generation, where women deliberately try to seduce and tease men. A wise wife realizes this and does her best to be her husbands biggest seducer, and secret lover.
Verse 32 - Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
She is every man's dream. Other men respect her virtue, and loyalty to her husband. They know that this woman is a lady, and she doesn't have the flirting eyes of the silly woman. She is an asset to her husband, and not a liability. Her husband is well respected because of the wife's testimony. So many wives are a reproach to their husbands (1st Timothy 5:14).
Verse 24 - She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
She is industrious and looks for honest ways to earn some extra money. She sees her husband's concerns over finances, and wants to help him if she can. However, in today's world, things are different than from Bible days. It was difficult to find clothing back in Bible days, there were no mass producers of clothing like today. Hence, it would be foolish for a wife to try to make and sell clothing today, which can be bought dirt cheap at the store. It would be better to make something unique, which cannot be found in the stores. The idea is to do something that is going to make money, but not at a loss. There are MANY ways in which wife can earn money. Cleaning businesses are a good market in wealthier areas. You clean people's homes on a weekly basis, etc. Animal-sitting is popular. People drop their dog or cat off, and you watch them while they're on vacation. Please keep in mind that the woman in Proverbs 31 was trying to help her husband. If your husband has a good job, then you don't need to earn extra money. Again, the context of the Scripture is that a godly woman is not a couch-potato who sits around doing nothing. The Bible is not saying that every wife has to make money, not at all. The Bible is simply saying that she stays busy, using her time wisely for the benefit of her family. The applications are limitless.
Verse 25 - Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
She has the right priorities in life (Matthew 6:33). She keeps her eyes on Jesus Christ, and knows that there is always light at the end of the tunnel when problems arise. She reads and studies the Bible, meditating upon God's Word throughout the day. She has faith in God. She is able to handle problems which would cause other women to run to shelters or file for divorce. She doesn't run from her problems, she weathers the storms of life. She will one day be happy that she didn't divorce her husband, or cheat on him, when all hope seemed lost. When she couldn't see her hand in front of her face, she didn't give up and quit on her marriage. She is a real trooper, hanging in their when her husband was under Satan's attack. Fifty years ago, a mother could have 10 children and handle all the housework by herself. Today, a mother needs a babysitter, counselor, friends, mother, and the whole neighborhood to raise one brat. Women have lost old fashioned character. Wives nowadays run out the door, go back to mama, and many file for divorce. This is sinful, and an indication of the moral decline in America.
Verse 26 - She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
She is no fool. She knows Biblical principles, and has good sense. She keeps her mouth shut most of the time. When she does talk, it's worth hearing. She never curses or uses profane language. She never tells or listens to dirty jokes. She doesn't waste her time talking with shallow people, who like to gossip and slander others. She doesn't gossip or listen to gossip. She never speaks evil of any man. She respects the manhood of other men. I once knew a woman who liked to deride other men by continually referring to her husband as a "real man." This is not Christian. A godly woman respects the manhood of other men; but, she is extremely careful not to directly praise other men. Men are hungry for praise, and for a woman to give them attention. Don't do it ladies. No woman should ever brag on any man other than her husband. The fastest way to anger and hurt your husband is to brag on another man. Every husband wants to be his wife's ONLY hero. However, don't criticize or slander other men either. Every man has his dignity.
Verse 27 - She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
She doesn't eat until her family has eaten. She is in charge of the housework, and knows what is what. She doesn't lose things--she has a place for everything, and puts everything in it's place. She is organized. Her house is clean. She knows all the emergency phone numbers, and is prepared to deal with medical emergencies. She knows the poison hotline. Perhaps she has even taken a CPR and First Aid course. She is careful with food preparation, and washes her hands. Her home is disinfected, and it smells clean. She is careful to wash the dishes correctly, not leaving soap film on the plates. She is careful not to give her husband cracked glasses, or food with hair in it. She doesn't leave her children unattended. She reads to her kids, and listens to them read to her. She knows about nutrition, and her family gets plenty of grain and vegetables. She is careful not to give too many sweets to the family. She knows that fluoride is poison, and filters her families' drinking water. She doesn't like chemicals in the food, so she tries to prepare more homemade meals. The lazy woman will buy nothing but prepared foods, feeding her family loads of sodium and toxic sodium aluminum phosphate (most baking goods). Every wife should be an expert in nutrition. Every wife should read, ask questions, and get informed concerning everything that she is responsible for. I'm amazed how many wives and mothers go about their roles haphazardly.
Verse 28 - Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
How many men are always fighting with their wives because she is lazy? Many! Many men are miserable because of a lazy wife who won't spend 5-minutes in front of a mirror to pretty herself up. I heard a man criticize his wife, saying that she placed them into debt by buying a living room furniture set they didn't need. Another man said he was mowing the lawn on a hot summer day and asked his wife for a glass of water. She said, "Get it yourself" and never brought it. Another man rejoiced when he received an extra bonus check at work, because his wife didn't know about it and wouldn't confiscate it. These men all spake poorly of their wives. The Proverbs 31 woman doesn't make her husband miserable, she is a help instead of a burden. So many married men are miserable, including Christian men, because of lazy lackadaisical wives. Often, even the children get upset with her, because she blames the kids for her faults. I've heard mothers curse at their children, screaming and yelling at them, like they were criminals. This is sinful. What does your husband say about you?
Verse 29 - Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.
Very few, and I mean very few, women are like the Proverbs 31 woman. Very few husbands are truly happy in their marriage. So many wives lie to their husbands, being deceitful and hiding things from him. I feel sorry for the man who's wife waits 10 years to tell him some bad news, breaking his heart. Those are horrible words when a wife says, "There's something I should have told you 10 years ago." What a horrible thing to do to a man. There was a wife who led her husband to believe that she was a virgin before they married. They were both Christians and had never dated anyone except each other. The wife decided after 7 years of marriage to tell her husband that she was sexually molested by a much older step brother when she was a little girl. The husband was forever devastated. As you can imagine, that permanently destroyed any family relations. The man never spoke to the wife's family again. The wife should have kept her mouth shut. Better yet, she should have told her husband before they married what had happened. She might as well have shot that poor man in the head, because he wished he were dead when she dropped the bomb on him. I've heard testimonies from men of their wives stealing from their them, cleaning out the bank account, destroying their personal property, lying to them, using the courts against them, dragging meddling people into the marriage, etc, etc, etc.. So sad, so tragic, so evil.
Verse 30 - Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.
We are living in a sex-perverted generation where girls are trained at the earliest age to be whores. The godless music being aimed at young girls is being produced and sung by Satan worshippers like Madonna, and lascivious causing perverts like Britney Spears, Hilary Duff, Jessica Simpson, etc. Truly, beauty is only skin deep. One day, all their physical beauty will fade, and an old broken body will be all that remains. Death is inevitable (Romans 6:23). The sinful world worships youth, and the rebellion of youth. 1st John 2:15-17 plainly teaches that the world and the lusts thereof will all pass away. Nothing will matter 100 years from now except what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Jesus as your personal Savior, as payment for your sins; or will you reject Christ, and die in your sins?
Verse 31 - Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.
Verse 21 - She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
Her kids don't go to school improperly dressed. I've seen kids going to school in 40 degree weather with no coat. Many kids don't have a sense of temperature, and don't care if they have a coat or not. A lazy mother who doesn't care won't even notice her kids improperly dressed. This is irresponsible. A godly mother will keep an eye on her kids at all times. So many mothers are idiots--letting their kids wander out of sight, going to school with no lunch, or doing dangerous things. There are plenty of second-hand stores nowadays (my favorite places to shop). Every child should have a warm coat for the cold weather, and shoes without holes in them.
Verse 22 - She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
She knows how to seduce her own husband. She is an expert at love-making. Many wives fail in this area, not romantically satisfying their husband's needs. To a man, sex is much more than just a physical union. The mental aspects of romance must not be ignored. A wise wife will give her husband the expressions, sensualism, and thrills that he needs. If you don't do it, then your husband will be frustrated. We are living in a whorish generation, where women deliberately try to seduce and tease men. A wise wife realizes this and does her best to be her husbands biggest seducer, and secret lover.
Verse 32 - Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
She is every man's dream. Other men respect her virtue, and loyalty to her husband. They know that this woman is a lady, and she doesn't have the flirting eyes of the silly woman. She is an asset to her husband, and not a liability. Her husband is well respected because of the wife's testimony. So many wives are a reproach to their husbands (1st Timothy 5:14).
Verse 24 - She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
She is industrious and looks for honest ways to earn some extra money. She sees her husband's concerns over finances, and wants to help him if she can. However, in today's world, things are different than from Bible days. It was difficult to find clothing back in Bible days, there were no mass producers of clothing like today. Hence, it would be foolish for a wife to try to make and sell clothing today, which can be bought dirt cheap at the store. It would be better to make something unique, which cannot be found in the stores. The idea is to do something that is going to make money, but not at a loss. There are MANY ways in which wife can earn money. Cleaning businesses are a good market in wealthier areas. You clean people's homes on a weekly basis, etc. Animal-sitting is popular. People drop their dog or cat off, and you watch them while they're on vacation. Please keep in mind that the woman in Proverbs 31 was trying to help her husband. If your husband has a good job, then you don't need to earn extra money. Again, the context of the Scripture is that a godly woman is not a couch-potato who sits around doing nothing. The Bible is not saying that every wife has to make money, not at all. The Bible is simply saying that she stays busy, using her time wisely for the benefit of her family. The applications are limitless.
Verse 25 - Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
She has the right priorities in life (Matthew 6:33). She keeps her eyes on Jesus Christ, and knows that there is always light at the end of the tunnel when problems arise. She reads and studies the Bible, meditating upon God's Word throughout the day. She has faith in God. She is able to handle problems which would cause other women to run to shelters or file for divorce. She doesn't run from her problems, she weathers the storms of life. She will one day be happy that she didn't divorce her husband, or cheat on him, when all hope seemed lost. When she couldn't see her hand in front of her face, she didn't give up and quit on her marriage. She is a real trooper, hanging in their when her husband was under Satan's attack. Fifty years ago, a mother could have 10 children and handle all the housework by herself. Today, a mother needs a babysitter, counselor, friends, mother, and the whole neighborhood to raise one brat. Women have lost old fashioned character. Wives nowadays run out the door, go back to mama, and many file for divorce. This is sinful, and an indication of the moral decline in America.
Verse 26 - She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
She is no fool. She knows Biblical principles, and has good sense. She keeps her mouth shut most of the time. When she does talk, it's worth hearing. She never curses or uses profane language. She never tells or listens to dirty jokes. She doesn't waste her time talking with shallow people, who like to gossip and slander others. She doesn't gossip or listen to gossip. She never speaks evil of any man. She respects the manhood of other men. I once knew a woman who liked to deride other men by continually referring to her husband as a "real man." This is not Christian. A godly woman respects the manhood of other men; but, she is extremely careful not to directly praise other men. Men are hungry for praise, and for a woman to give them attention. Don't do it ladies. No woman should ever brag on any man other than her husband. The fastest way to anger and hurt your husband is to brag on another man. Every husband wants to be his wife's ONLY hero. However, don't criticize or slander other men either. Every man has his dignity.
Verse 27 - She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
She doesn't eat until her family has eaten. She is in charge of the housework, and knows what is what. She doesn't lose things--she has a place for everything, and puts everything in it's place. She is organized. Her house is clean. She knows all the emergency phone numbers, and is prepared to deal with medical emergencies. She knows the poison hotline. Perhaps she has even taken a CPR and First Aid course. She is careful with food preparation, and washes her hands. Her home is disinfected, and it smells clean. She is careful to wash the dishes correctly, not leaving soap film on the plates. She is careful not to give her husband cracked glasses, or food with hair in it. She doesn't leave her children unattended. She reads to her kids, and listens to them read to her. She knows about nutrition, and her family gets plenty of grain and vegetables. She is careful not to give too many sweets to the family. She knows that fluoride is poison, and filters her families' drinking water. She doesn't like chemicals in the food, so she tries to prepare more homemade meals. The lazy woman will buy nothing but prepared foods, feeding her family loads of sodium and toxic sodium aluminum phosphate (most baking goods). Every wife should be an expert in nutrition. Every wife should read, ask questions, and get informed concerning everything that she is responsible for. I'm amazed how many wives and mothers go about their roles haphazardly.
Verse 28 - Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
How many men are always fighting with their wives because she is lazy? Many! Many men are miserable because of a lazy wife who won't spend 5-minutes in front of a mirror to pretty herself up. I heard a man criticize his wife, saying that she placed them into debt by buying a living room furniture set they didn't need. Another man said he was mowing the lawn on a hot summer day and asked his wife for a glass of water. She said, "Get it yourself" and never brought it. Another man rejoiced when he received an extra bonus check at work, because his wife didn't know about it and wouldn't confiscate it. These men all spake poorly of their wives. The Proverbs 31 woman doesn't make her husband miserable, she is a help instead of a burden. So many married men are miserable, including Christian men, because of lazy lackadaisical wives. Often, even the children get upset with her, because she blames the kids for her faults. I've heard mothers curse at their children, screaming and yelling at them, like they were criminals. This is sinful. What does your husband say about you?
Verse 29 - Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.
Very few, and I mean very few, women are like the Proverbs 31 woman. Very few husbands are truly happy in their marriage. So many wives lie to their husbands, being deceitful and hiding things from him. I feel sorry for the man who's wife waits 10 years to tell him some bad news, breaking his heart. Those are horrible words when a wife says, "There's something I should have told you 10 years ago." What a horrible thing to do to a man. There was a wife who led her husband to believe that she was a virgin before they married. They were both Christians and had never dated anyone except each other. The wife decided after 7 years of marriage to tell her husband that she was sexually molested by a much older step brother when she was a little girl. The husband was forever devastated. As you can imagine, that permanently destroyed any family relations. The man never spoke to the wife's family again. The wife should have kept her mouth shut. Better yet, she should have told her husband before they married what had happened. She might as well have shot that poor man in the head, because he wished he were dead when she dropped the bomb on him. I've heard testimonies from men of their wives stealing from their them, cleaning out the bank account, destroying their personal property, lying to them, using the courts against them, dragging meddling people into the marriage, etc, etc, etc.. So sad, so tragic, so evil.
Verse 30 - Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.
We are living in a sex-perverted generation where girls are trained at the earliest age to be whores. The godless music being aimed at young girls is being produced and sung by Satan worshippers like Madonna, and lascivious causing perverts like Britney Spears, Hilary Duff, Jessica Simpson, etc. Truly, beauty is only skin deep. One day, all their physical beauty will fade, and an old broken body will be all that remains. Death is inevitable (Romans 6:23). The sinful world worships youth, and the rebellion of youth. 1st John 2:15-17 plainly teaches that the world and the lusts thereof will all pass away. Nothing will matter 100 years from now except what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Jesus as your personal Savior, as payment for your sins; or will you reject Christ, and die in your sins?
Verse 31 - Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.
Proverbs 31 Woman
I have been reading alot of blogs about woman wanting to be the Proverbs 31 woman well here is something i have read about it and all the scripture to go with it.
What is a "Proverbs 31 woman"? It is a woman who is pleasing to God; and in order to be pleasing to God (in the case of a married woman), she must be obedient and committed to her husband's happiness. She must be committed to the well being and safety of her children, to loving them, and to promoting their spiritual growth. No feminist is a Proverbs 31 woman! No whorish, above the skirt wearing floozy, is is a Proverbs 31 woman! She is NOT pleasing to God. No lazy wife, who causes her husband grief, is a Proverbs 31 woman. Let's go through these Scriptures and find out exactly what the Word of God defines as a Proverbs 31 woman, a godly woman. Most articles on the Proverbs 31 woman which I have read don't say much, so I'm going to break it down, and give it to you in simple terms.
Verse 10 - Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
All the money in the world cannot buy loyalty. Wealthy men may have their whores and mistresses; but, money cannot buy genuine love, which is a gift from God. A woman of God is virtuous, wears dresses (modest clothing), and knows the dangers of teasing the opposite sex. Many women today are horribly malicious, actually enjoying teasing married men to lust upon them. Can you imagine how hot Hell will be for such home-wreckers if they die without Christ as Savior? Of course, God doesn't want anyone to die in their sins (2nd Peter 3:9).
Verse 11 - The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
Many men don't trust their wives; therefore, they have separate bank accounts, hide the mail, keep things from their wife, etc. You'd be shocked if you knew just how many married couples don't trust each other. I know a man who won't let his wife touch the mail because she loses it, or hides things from him. Many angry wives have cleaned out the bank account and skipped town. One man told me that his wife stole $10,000 from their account, money they had agreed would be spent to pay bills. One of the first things many sinful wives do when they get angry at their husbands is to hurt him financially (cause him spoil).
Verse 12 - She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
Again, many wives hurt their husbands when they get angry. Nothing is more devastating to a man, than to find out that his wife gave her body to another man. The wife's body belongs only to her husband (1st Corinthians 7:4). Adultery is a horrible sin in the sight of God, and the excruciating emotional pains last a LIFETIME for the betrayed spouse. Many wives lie to their husbands, being deceitful behind his back, slander him, and dragging people into their marriage problems. This is all evil.
Verse 13 - She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
In modern times, we are blessed with inexpensive clothing. This Verse simply means that her children are well dressed for the weather, and for the occasion. I do believe that one of the great lost arts is that of making clothing. I think all girls should learn how to make sweaters, knit, and crochet. I think every girl should learn to cook without the microwave. We are living in a lazy and wasteful generation, who don't know how to do anything for themselves...so they spend a lot of extra money for convenience sake.
Verse 14 - She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
She knows how to cook, she learns the recipes, and can cook things that are popular in other cultures. She wants to give her family the best. No wife has an excuse not to be a great cook. There are free recipes online for everything from eggrolls, to Mediterranean dishes.
Verse 15 - She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
She is not lazy, she does what needs to be done. This woman in Proverbs got up before the sun did, and fed her family. I have known children who went to school hungry because of a lazy mother, who didn't feel like getting up to make breakfast. I've known husbands who ate at McDonalds regularly, because of a lazy wife who didn't think to make him a lunch. I knew a man who got food poisoning, because his lazy wife didn't properly care for the food before making his lunch. Every wise woman should have a desire to learn about food-born-illnesses, and how to prevent them.
Verse 16 - She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
A little thought needs to go into this Verse. It is obvious that no wife would make such a big financial decision without her husband's involvement. I believe this Verse relates back to Verses 11 and 12. It simply means that she has good judgment, and she is able to think for herself, and can; therefore, help her husband in many ways. Contrary to the popular feminist fantasy concerning home-makers; God-fearing woman, who obey their husbands, and stay at home, can make intelligent decisions.
Verse 17 - She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.
She is physically active; not a couch potato. One of the reasons many women have strokes and heart attacks is because they live a sedentary lifestyle. The Proverbs 31 woman doesn't smoke cigarettes, she takes care of herself, and sets the proper example for her children to follow. It is certainly a good idea for woman to exercise, and I don't believe there is anything wrong with a woman exercising at local women's only fitness center (provided that proper attire is worn).
Verse 18 - She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.
She works long hours into the night sometimes; but, she doesn't ignore her health. She does get adequate sleep at night (and perhaps a nap in the day). I believe moms need a 1-2 hour nap in the afternoon. She is a balanced woman. She works hard; but knows when to take a break. She is good at what she does because she has made an art of the things in her life. She is an expert at romance, cooking, and taking care of the home. Of course, this takes several years to achieve. You can't do everything at once. Every wife is either improving or slacking off.
Verse 19 - She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
She is not lazy. The proverbs 31 woman stays busy, she doesn't sit around loafing all day. Many women sit home watching soap operas, smoking cigarettes, drinking coffee, surfing the internet; yet, they don't do their duties as a wife and a mother. Every working husband should come home to a waiting wife, who happily greets him at the door, and rolls out the red carpet for him. I feel sorry for the children who have to go to school, while mom stays in bed sleeping. If a wife doesn't have to work outside the home, then she should earn her keep. Shame on those lazy wives who don't care for the home, while their husbands faithfully go to work every day and pay the bills. No husband should have to continually ask his wife to clean the house, and to pick up after herself. No husband should smell dishes stinking in the sink when he comes home, or see piles of dirt which haven't been picked up off the floor.
Verse 20 - She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
What is a "Proverbs 31 woman"? It is a woman who is pleasing to God; and in order to be pleasing to God (in the case of a married woman), she must be obedient and committed to her husband's happiness. She must be committed to the well being and safety of her children, to loving them, and to promoting their spiritual growth. No feminist is a Proverbs 31 woman! No whorish, above the skirt wearing floozy, is is a Proverbs 31 woman! She is NOT pleasing to God. No lazy wife, who causes her husband grief, is a Proverbs 31 woman. Let's go through these Scriptures and find out exactly what the Word of God defines as a Proverbs 31 woman, a godly woman. Most articles on the Proverbs 31 woman which I have read don't say much, so I'm going to break it down, and give it to you in simple terms.
Verse 10 - Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
All the money in the world cannot buy loyalty. Wealthy men may have their whores and mistresses; but, money cannot buy genuine love, which is a gift from God. A woman of God is virtuous, wears dresses (modest clothing), and knows the dangers of teasing the opposite sex. Many women today are horribly malicious, actually enjoying teasing married men to lust upon them. Can you imagine how hot Hell will be for such home-wreckers if they die without Christ as Savior? Of course, God doesn't want anyone to die in their sins (2nd Peter 3:9).
Verse 11 - The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
Many men don't trust their wives; therefore, they have separate bank accounts, hide the mail, keep things from their wife, etc. You'd be shocked if you knew just how many married couples don't trust each other. I know a man who won't let his wife touch the mail because she loses it, or hides things from him. Many angry wives have cleaned out the bank account and skipped town. One man told me that his wife stole $10,000 from their account, money they had agreed would be spent to pay bills. One of the first things many sinful wives do when they get angry at their husbands is to hurt him financially (cause him spoil).
Verse 12 - She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
Again, many wives hurt their husbands when they get angry. Nothing is more devastating to a man, than to find out that his wife gave her body to another man. The wife's body belongs only to her husband (1st Corinthians 7:4). Adultery is a horrible sin in the sight of God, and the excruciating emotional pains last a LIFETIME for the betrayed spouse. Many wives lie to their husbands, being deceitful behind his back, slander him, and dragging people into their marriage problems. This is all evil.
Verse 13 - She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
In modern times, we are blessed with inexpensive clothing. This Verse simply means that her children are well dressed for the weather, and for the occasion. I do believe that one of the great lost arts is that of making clothing. I think all girls should learn how to make sweaters, knit, and crochet. I think every girl should learn to cook without the microwave. We are living in a lazy and wasteful generation, who don't know how to do anything for themselves...so they spend a lot of extra money for convenience sake.
Verse 14 - She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
She knows how to cook, she learns the recipes, and can cook things that are popular in other cultures. She wants to give her family the best. No wife has an excuse not to be a great cook. There are free recipes online for everything from eggrolls, to Mediterranean dishes.
Verse 15 - She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
She is not lazy, she does what needs to be done. This woman in Proverbs got up before the sun did, and fed her family. I have known children who went to school hungry because of a lazy mother, who didn't feel like getting up to make breakfast. I've known husbands who ate at McDonalds regularly, because of a lazy wife who didn't think to make him a lunch. I knew a man who got food poisoning, because his lazy wife didn't properly care for the food before making his lunch. Every wise woman should have a desire to learn about food-born-illnesses, and how to prevent them.
Verse 16 - She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
A little thought needs to go into this Verse. It is obvious that no wife would make such a big financial decision without her husband's involvement. I believe this Verse relates back to Verses 11 and 12. It simply means that she has good judgment, and she is able to think for herself, and can; therefore, help her husband in many ways. Contrary to the popular feminist fantasy concerning home-makers; God-fearing woman, who obey their husbands, and stay at home, can make intelligent decisions.
Verse 17 - She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.
She is physically active; not a couch potato. One of the reasons many women have strokes and heart attacks is because they live a sedentary lifestyle. The Proverbs 31 woman doesn't smoke cigarettes, she takes care of herself, and sets the proper example for her children to follow. It is certainly a good idea for woman to exercise, and I don't believe there is anything wrong with a woman exercising at local women's only fitness center (provided that proper attire is worn).
Verse 18 - She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.
She works long hours into the night sometimes; but, she doesn't ignore her health. She does get adequate sleep at night (and perhaps a nap in the day). I believe moms need a 1-2 hour nap in the afternoon. She is a balanced woman. She works hard; but knows when to take a break. She is good at what she does because she has made an art of the things in her life. She is an expert at romance, cooking, and taking care of the home. Of course, this takes several years to achieve. You can't do everything at once. Every wife is either improving or slacking off.
Verse 19 - She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
She is not lazy. The proverbs 31 woman stays busy, she doesn't sit around loafing all day. Many women sit home watching soap operas, smoking cigarettes, drinking coffee, surfing the internet; yet, they don't do their duties as a wife and a mother. Every working husband should come home to a waiting wife, who happily greets him at the door, and rolls out the red carpet for him. I feel sorry for the children who have to go to school, while mom stays in bed sleeping. If a wife doesn't have to work outside the home, then she should earn her keep. Shame on those lazy wives who don't care for the home, while their husbands faithfully go to work every day and pay the bills. No husband should have to continually ask his wife to clean the house, and to pick up after herself. No husband should smell dishes stinking in the sink when he comes home, or see piles of dirt which haven't been picked up off the floor.
Verse 20 - She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
The last on modesty
Dressing modestly will not get you to heaven. It will not make you a “better” person and it will not save your soul. What it will do is display obedience to the Word of God. It will reflect a heart that is submitted to Him and a desire to dress “to the glory of God!”
Whether therefore ye eat, or drink, or whatsoever ye do, do all to the glory of God. 1 Corinthians 10:31
It is a sad day indeed when God´s chosen people flaunt their nakedness shamelessly all in the name of “Christian Liberty.” We live in a day when His precious sons and daughters wreak of the world and resemble more the heathen, than the elect.
Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate…2 Corinthians 6:17
But ye are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, an holy nation, a peculiar people; that ye should shew forth the praises of him who hath called you out of darkness into his marvellous light: 1 Pet 2:9
The feminist cry from our heathen society is, “But it´s MY body and MY choice how I dress!! I´ll do what I want!” Is the cry much different from our congregations? “But it´s MY Christian Liberty to dress the way I want! Legalism! I will do what I think is right!”
What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's. 1 Corinthians 6:19-20
What shall we say then? Shall we continue in sin, that grace may abound? God forbid. How shall we, that are dead to sin, live any longer therein? Romans 6:1-2
Neither yield ye your members as instruments of unrighteousness unto sin: but yield yourselves unto God, as those that are alive from the dead, and your members as instruments of righteousness unto God. Romans 6:13
Should we have the “liberty” to pick and choose what is worth obeying?
All Scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness. II Timothy 3:16
Sisters, let us repent of our arrogance and rebellion. Let us turn to the Lord with a humble and contrite heart and may the God of mercy grant us pardon for our worldly and selfish desire to dress contrary to the glory of God.
If you haven´t honestly and earnestly sought God in how He would have you dress, then I urge you dear sisters to do so now! I pray God gives you the grace to walk and dress as befits a child of the King. In so doing, you are considering your brother, loving your neighbor and honoring your God.
And now I beseech thee, lady, not as though I wrote a new commandment unto thee, but that which we had from the beginning, that we love one another. II John 1:5
By the grace of Him Who saved me, may I seek to give Him honor and glory in all that I do…and yes, all that I wear. “Take my will and make it Thine – It shall be no longer mine!”
Whether therefore ye eat, or drink, or whatsoever ye do, do all to the glory of God. 1 Corinthians 10:31
It is a sad day indeed when God´s chosen people flaunt their nakedness shamelessly all in the name of “Christian Liberty.” We live in a day when His precious sons and daughters wreak of the world and resemble more the heathen, than the elect.
Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate…2 Corinthians 6:17
But ye are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, an holy nation, a peculiar people; that ye should shew forth the praises of him who hath called you out of darkness into his marvellous light: 1 Pet 2:9
The feminist cry from our heathen society is, “But it´s MY body and MY choice how I dress!! I´ll do what I want!” Is the cry much different from our congregations? “But it´s MY Christian Liberty to dress the way I want! Legalism! I will do what I think is right!”
What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's. 1 Corinthians 6:19-20
What shall we say then? Shall we continue in sin, that grace may abound? God forbid. How shall we, that are dead to sin, live any longer therein? Romans 6:1-2
Neither yield ye your members as instruments of unrighteousness unto sin: but yield yourselves unto God, as those that are alive from the dead, and your members as instruments of righteousness unto God. Romans 6:13
Should we have the “liberty” to pick and choose what is worth obeying?
All Scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness. II Timothy 3:16
Sisters, let us repent of our arrogance and rebellion. Let us turn to the Lord with a humble and contrite heart and may the God of mercy grant us pardon for our worldly and selfish desire to dress contrary to the glory of God.
If you haven´t honestly and earnestly sought God in how He would have you dress, then I urge you dear sisters to do so now! I pray God gives you the grace to walk and dress as befits a child of the King. In so doing, you are considering your brother, loving your neighbor and honoring your God.
And now I beseech thee, lady, not as though I wrote a new commandment unto thee, but that which we had from the beginning, that we love one another. II John 1:5
By the grace of Him Who saved me, may I seek to give Him honor and glory in all that I do…and yes, all that I wear. “Take my will and make it Thine – It shall be no longer mine!”
modesty part 4
This has been copied and are not my own words.
According to the Westminster Assembly´s Larger Catechism:
Q. 138. What are the duties required in the seventh commandment? A. The duties required in the seventh commandment are, chastity in body, mind, affections, words, and behavior, and the preservation of it in ourselves and others; watchfulness over the eyes and all the senses; temperance, keeping of chaste company, modesty in apparel; marriage by those that have not the gift of continency, conjugal love, and cohabitation; diligent labor in our callings; shunning all occasions of uncleanness, and resisting temptations thereunto.
Q. 139. What are the sins forbidden in the seventh commandment? A. The sins forbidden in the seventh commandment, besides the neglect of the duties required, are, adultery, fornication, rape, incest, sodomy, and all unnatural lusts; all unclean imaginations, thoughts, purposes, and affections; all corrupt or filthy communications, or listening thereunto; wanton looks, impudent or light behaviour, immodest apparel… and all other provocations to, or acts of uncleanness, either in ourselves or others.
Although immodesty and nakedness is at an all time high in our country, it is not new to sinful man. John Bunyan preached against immodesty in his day as well! Consider his words:
“Why are they for going with their…naked shoulders, and paps hanging out like a cow´s bag? Why are they for painting their faces, for stretching out their neck, and for putting of themselves unto all the formalities which proud fancy leads them to? Is it because they would honor God? Because they would adorn the gospel? Because they would beatify religion, and make sinners to fall in love with their own salvation? No, no, it is rather to please their lusts…I believe also that Satan has drawn more into the sin of uncleanness by the spangling show of fine clothes, than he could possibly have drawn unto it without them. I wonder what it was that of old was called the attire of a harlot: certainly it could not be more bewitching and tempting than are the garments of many professors this day.”
My, my, wouldn´t John Bunyan be shocked by the “bewitching and tempting” garments of today´s “professors?”
From what we have found in Scripture, long dresses, long skirts, long robes, long and loose culottes or even pants [IMHO - I have to totally disagree here about the pants ;-)]if they can be described as long, loose and flowing (and not sheer) would be modest and feminine. Can short or tight skirts be described as long and flowing? Can shorts be described as long and flowing? What about blue jeans? You might be able to describe them as loose but are you convinced they are long and flowing? Can you describe a skirt that is slit up higher than the length of a dress you could wear decently, as modest? If the dress is too tight to walk without a high slit, maybe the dress is too tight to wear!
Therefore we are certain that God commands Christian women to dress modestly, to dress like women in a feminine manner and to not dress as to cause our brother to stumble. We have also learned that Scripture is not up for individual interpretation. God´s Word is the final authority in all we believe, do and think. Don´t allow the world to set your standards of dress!
According to the Westminster Assembly´s Larger Catechism:
Q. 138. What are the duties required in the seventh commandment? A. The duties required in the seventh commandment are, chastity in body, mind, affections, words, and behavior, and the preservation of it in ourselves and others; watchfulness over the eyes and all the senses; temperance, keeping of chaste company, modesty in apparel; marriage by those that have not the gift of continency, conjugal love, and cohabitation; diligent labor in our callings; shunning all occasions of uncleanness, and resisting temptations thereunto.
Q. 139. What are the sins forbidden in the seventh commandment? A. The sins forbidden in the seventh commandment, besides the neglect of the duties required, are, adultery, fornication, rape, incest, sodomy, and all unnatural lusts; all unclean imaginations, thoughts, purposes, and affections; all corrupt or filthy communications, or listening thereunto; wanton looks, impudent or light behaviour, immodest apparel… and all other provocations to, or acts of uncleanness, either in ourselves or others.
Although immodesty and nakedness is at an all time high in our country, it is not new to sinful man. John Bunyan preached against immodesty in his day as well! Consider his words:
“Why are they for going with their…naked shoulders, and paps hanging out like a cow´s bag? Why are they for painting their faces, for stretching out their neck, and for putting of themselves unto all the formalities which proud fancy leads them to? Is it because they would honor God? Because they would adorn the gospel? Because they would beatify religion, and make sinners to fall in love with their own salvation? No, no, it is rather to please their lusts…I believe also that Satan has drawn more into the sin of uncleanness by the spangling show of fine clothes, than he could possibly have drawn unto it without them. I wonder what it was that of old was called the attire of a harlot: certainly it could not be more bewitching and tempting than are the garments of many professors this day.”
My, my, wouldn´t John Bunyan be shocked by the “bewitching and tempting” garments of today´s “professors?”
From what we have found in Scripture, long dresses, long skirts, long robes, long and loose culottes or even pants [IMHO - I have to totally disagree here about the pants ;-)]if they can be described as long, loose and flowing (and not sheer) would be modest and feminine. Can short or tight skirts be described as long and flowing? Can shorts be described as long and flowing? What about blue jeans? You might be able to describe them as loose but are you convinced they are long and flowing? Can you describe a skirt that is slit up higher than the length of a dress you could wear decently, as modest? If the dress is too tight to walk without a high slit, maybe the dress is too tight to wear!
Therefore we are certain that God commands Christian women to dress modestly, to dress like women in a feminine manner and to not dress as to cause our brother to stumble. We have also learned that Scripture is not up for individual interpretation. God´s Word is the final authority in all we believe, do and think. Don´t allow the world to set your standards of dress!
modesty part 3
This has been copied and are not my own words.
These are all issues we need to seriously consider when choosing our wardrobe. It is clear God wants us to dress in “modest apparel.” But does He leave it up to individual interpretation what "modest apparel" is? My neighbor thinks her leather mini skirts and halter tops are modest because she covers the important" areas. Does the fact that she *feels* she is being modest make it so? What about the pastor's wife who wears short dresses and sits at the front of the church playing the piano as her skirt rises higher and higher? If she has decided in her heart she is being modest, does it make it right? Is everyone supposed to decide what is modest for themselves or does God give us any guidelines at all?
There is a generation that are pure in their own eyes, and yet is not washed from their filthiness. Proverbs 30:12
Woe unto them that are wise in their own eyes, and prudent in their own sight! Isaiah 5:21
In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, (katastole) with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; 1Timothy 2:9
What does the Greek word “katastole” (apparel) mean? In our modern society, the word apparel could mean a bikini! Vine's Expository Dictionary of Biblical Words tells us “katastole” is connected with “katastello,” which means "to send or let down, to lower" (kata, "down," stello, "to send"), was primarily a garment let down; hence, "dress, attire," in general (cf. stole, a loose outer garment worn by kings and persons of rank.) This describes a long, flowing robe-type garment.
The only time the word “katastole” is used is when it is describing how a woman is to dress AND it is a verse that is specifically addressing modesty. It describes a LONG, FLOWING, LOOSE, outer garment. All other references to “apparel” in the New Testament are gender neutral. They simply mean “clothing” or “to clothe.” We are to understand that as women, our clothing should be long, flowing and loose.
These are all issues we need to seriously consider when choosing our wardrobe. It is clear God wants us to dress in “modest apparel.” But does He leave it up to individual interpretation what "modest apparel" is? My neighbor thinks her leather mini skirts and halter tops are modest because she covers the important" areas. Does the fact that she *feels* she is being modest make it so? What about the pastor's wife who wears short dresses and sits at the front of the church playing the piano as her skirt rises higher and higher? If she has decided in her heart she is being modest, does it make it right? Is everyone supposed to decide what is modest for themselves or does God give us any guidelines at all?
There is a generation that are pure in their own eyes, and yet is not washed from their filthiness. Proverbs 30:12
Woe unto them that are wise in their own eyes, and prudent in their own sight! Isaiah 5:21
In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, (katastole) with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; 1Timothy 2:9
What does the Greek word “katastole” (apparel) mean? In our modern society, the word apparel could mean a bikini! Vine's Expository Dictionary of Biblical Words tells us “katastole” is connected with “katastello,” which means "to send or let down, to lower" (kata, "down," stello, "to send"), was primarily a garment let down; hence, "dress, attire," in general (cf. stole, a loose outer garment worn by kings and persons of rank.) This describes a long, flowing robe-type garment.
The only time the word “katastole” is used is when it is describing how a woman is to dress AND it is a verse that is specifically addressing modesty. It describes a LONG, FLOWING, LOOSE, outer garment. All other references to “apparel” in the New Testament are gender neutral. They simply mean “clothing” or “to clothe.” We are to understand that as women, our clothing should be long, flowing and loose.
modesty part 2
This has been copied and are not my own words.
Many times we seem to be asking, “How much can I get away with before it is considered sin? How many articles of clothing may I shed before it´s considered wrong? How tight is too tight? How short is too short? How low is too low?” Instead my question to you today is, “What is God´s best?” Let us reason together and see what God´s Word tells us.
First of all, the Bible is clear that God wants His daughters to dress modestly.
In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; But (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works. 1 Timothy 2:9-10
We as women love to adorn ourselves. Before redemption, many of us “adorned” ourselves in provocative clothing that was purposely intended to entice and seduce men. Some may have adorned themselves in costly jewelry or expensive clothing to pridefully flaunt their wealth or status to others. How does God say we should “adorn” ourselves? “In modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety…” We must honestly ask ourselves (and our husbands!) if this describes our current wardrobe. The Christian woman should not be "focused" on outward appearance. Men are attracted to the female form. If we´re showing ours off, purposely or not, we´re not being modest! Shorts show off legs. Plain and simple. Tight or low blouses show off other things. Pants can also show off the crotch area and the bottom. (I don't know how to say that more politely!)
Secondly, God wants us to dress like women and be delightfully feminine (the way he designed for us to be). In case you haven´t noticed, God made men and women drastically different! It´s a shameful crime when society succeeds in convincing little girls they should be tough, ambitious and masculine and little boys that they should be soft, effeminate and pretty. It starts out with a few “innocent” twists of God´s design for men and women. Then this same evil deception and perversion leads to those fools who are under the delusion that they are “women trapped in men´s bodies” and “men trapped in women´s bodies.”
The woman shall not wear that which pertaineth unto a man, neither shall a man put on a woman's garment: for all that do so are an abomination unto the LORD thy God. Deuteronomy 22:5
Although I believe this Scripture is specifically referencing the Transvestite, what else can we learn here? Go to your local mall and watch the teenaged girls dressing and carrying themselves like gangster boys! Baggy jeans, t-shirts, short messy hair, pierced body parts! When we smudge the clear lines of the differences in the sexes, this is where we end up! Open a magazine that has women's business-wear in it. You'll see slightly feminized men's business suits. Even the shoes look like men's! If it's a business suit with a skirt, then the skirt is short and sexy and the rest looks manly! We have a wonderful medley of masculinity AND immodesty all packaged nicely for today´s modern career woman!
Thirdly, we do not want to be responsible for causing a brother to stumble. Sadly, few ladies consider their brother when choosing their attire. “It´s his problem if he lusts!” is the more common reply.
But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart. Matthew 5:28
Let us not therefore judge one another any more: but judge this rather, that no man put a stumblingblock or an occasion to fall in his brother's way. Romans 14:13
It is good neither to eat flesh, nor to drink wine, nor any thing whereby thy brother stumbleth, or is offended, or is made weak. Romans 14:21
Many times we seem to be asking, “How much can I get away with before it is considered sin? How many articles of clothing may I shed before it´s considered wrong? How tight is too tight? How short is too short? How low is too low?” Instead my question to you today is, “What is God´s best?” Let us reason together and see what God´s Word tells us.
First of all, the Bible is clear that God wants His daughters to dress modestly.
In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; But (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works. 1 Timothy 2:9-10
We as women love to adorn ourselves. Before redemption, many of us “adorned” ourselves in provocative clothing that was purposely intended to entice and seduce men. Some may have adorned themselves in costly jewelry or expensive clothing to pridefully flaunt their wealth or status to others. How does God say we should “adorn” ourselves? “In modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety…” We must honestly ask ourselves (and our husbands!) if this describes our current wardrobe. The Christian woman should not be "focused" on outward appearance. Men are attracted to the female form. If we´re showing ours off, purposely or not, we´re not being modest! Shorts show off legs. Plain and simple. Tight or low blouses show off other things. Pants can also show off the crotch area and the bottom. (I don't know how to say that more politely!)
Secondly, God wants us to dress like women and be delightfully feminine (the way he designed for us to be). In case you haven´t noticed, God made men and women drastically different! It´s a shameful crime when society succeeds in convincing little girls they should be tough, ambitious and masculine and little boys that they should be soft, effeminate and pretty. It starts out with a few “innocent” twists of God´s design for men and women. Then this same evil deception and perversion leads to those fools who are under the delusion that they are “women trapped in men´s bodies” and “men trapped in women´s bodies.”
The woman shall not wear that which pertaineth unto a man, neither shall a man put on a woman's garment: for all that do so are an abomination unto the LORD thy God. Deuteronomy 22:5
Although I believe this Scripture is specifically referencing the Transvestite, what else can we learn here? Go to your local mall and watch the teenaged girls dressing and carrying themselves like gangster boys! Baggy jeans, t-shirts, short messy hair, pierced body parts! When we smudge the clear lines of the differences in the sexes, this is where we end up! Open a magazine that has women's business-wear in it. You'll see slightly feminized men's business suits. Even the shoes look like men's! If it's a business suit with a skirt, then the skirt is short and sexy and the rest looks manly! We have a wonderful medley of masculinity AND immodesty all packaged nicely for today´s modern career woman!
Thirdly, we do not want to be responsible for causing a brother to stumble. Sadly, few ladies consider their brother when choosing their attire. “It´s his problem if he lusts!” is the more common reply.
But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart. Matthew 5:28
Let us not therefore judge one another any more: but judge this rather, that no man put a stumblingblock or an occasion to fall in his brother's way. Romans 14:13
It is good neither to eat flesh, nor to drink wine, nor any thing whereby thy brother stumbleth, or is offended, or is made weak. Romans 14:21
modesty part 1
This has been copied and are not my own words.
Ye shall therefore sanctify yourselves, and ye shall be holy; for I am holy… Leviticus 11:44
Joel and Marian joyfully stand up on the fourth pew at the church in which they were married 50 years earlier. Their two grandsons, 15 and 17, along with their parents, stand beside them. The oldest smiles at his grandmother and whispers, “Happy Anniversary” as he turns the pages of the old beloved hymnal, preparing to sing Marian´s favorite hymn, Take My Life and Let It Be Consecrated. My, how times have changed in this old church since the day she married Joel. It used to be that young ladies dressed discreetly. Even if Christian modesty was not practiced at home, it was certainly respected in the worship service. Now today, 50 years later, she must cast her eyes downward, hoping her grandsons do the same, as the 3 young ladies in the pew in front of them wiggle their way to their seats. Short skirts and tight clothing leave little to the imagination. When did immodesty and nakedness creep into the church? How was it that God´s people didn´t notice? Was it our complacency or our active participation? “Take my life and let it be consecrated, Lord to Thee….”
One of the most controversial topics among Christian women today is the topic of Christian modesty. Why is something that is commanded in Scripture even questioned by God´s people? How could we, as a “Christian” nation, have degenerated so far in such a short period of time? Less than 100 years ago women would have been arrested for wearing what some ladies would unflinchingly wear to a worship service today! To our degradation, modesty and femininity are no longer common, or, in many cases, even desirable.
There is much we could discuss concerning modesty and the apparel of Christian men and women. However, since I am a woman, I will simply address the issues concerning women. Although it is true that men should dress modestly and decently as well, I will leave such details for discussion amongst the men. Neither will I attempt to delve into whether or not it is lawful for a woman to wear pants. Instead, my desire is to challenge you, my sisters in the Lord, to reevaluate what God´s Word says concerning modesty.
Ye shall therefore sanctify yourselves, and ye shall be holy; for I am holy… Leviticus 11:44
Joel and Marian joyfully stand up on the fourth pew at the church in which they were married 50 years earlier. Their two grandsons, 15 and 17, along with their parents, stand beside them. The oldest smiles at his grandmother and whispers, “Happy Anniversary” as he turns the pages of the old beloved hymnal, preparing to sing Marian´s favorite hymn, Take My Life and Let It Be Consecrated. My, how times have changed in this old church since the day she married Joel. It used to be that young ladies dressed discreetly. Even if Christian modesty was not practiced at home, it was certainly respected in the worship service. Now today, 50 years later, she must cast her eyes downward, hoping her grandsons do the same, as the 3 young ladies in the pew in front of them wiggle their way to their seats. Short skirts and tight clothing leave little to the imagination. When did immodesty and nakedness creep into the church? How was it that God´s people didn´t notice? Was it our complacency or our active participation? “Take my life and let it be consecrated, Lord to Thee….”
One of the most controversial topics among Christian women today is the topic of Christian modesty. Why is something that is commanded in Scripture even questioned by God´s people? How could we, as a “Christian” nation, have degenerated so far in such a short period of time? Less than 100 years ago women would have been arrested for wearing what some ladies would unflinchingly wear to a worship service today! To our degradation, modesty and femininity are no longer common, or, in many cases, even desirable.
There is much we could discuss concerning modesty and the apparel of Christian men and women. However, since I am a woman, I will simply address the issues concerning women. Although it is true that men should dress modestly and decently as well, I will leave such details for discussion amongst the men. Neither will I attempt to delve into whether or not it is lawful for a woman to wear pants. Instead, my desire is to challenge you, my sisters in the Lord, to reevaluate what God´s Word says concerning modesty.
Way to much to blog about.
I have so much to blog about i could blog on 10 diffrent things.I have so much i just need to get of my chest.I seem to never have enough time or just way to many and dont know were to begin.This bloging has become away for me to express my self and get some things out.It is so nice i guess i need to start bloging while the kids are in bed.It just seems like once i start i can go all day.i so wish i could just blink and all the things i need to do be done.HA HA like that will ever happen.well i have ti=o go get the kids in the bed i hope to write some more to night but if not maybe in the morn
How Crazy is your home?
Okay okay i know all homes get crazy from now and then !Mine seems like it has been crazy for the past 5 days.It seems like nothing cant stay clean why is that? I wish i had the magic answer.It all started friday the day my dh came home i got up mopped cleaned up and the house was not perfect but presentable.Well by saturday it looked like some one had went threw and ransacked our home.what happened from friday to sat?I did get the laundry room painted but that was it!!!!! It was the only clean room in the house.Sunday is a church day and we help to run a bus at church so we are at church from 9 to 9 so we come in i run to the grocrey store come in and cook. I look around and shake my head i just couldnt belive my house! Well my dh has to leave monday morn so we well he got his self all packed and we go to bed and i hate he has to leave in the morn and see the house looking so bad!!! It was bad i was so ashamed.So i get up monday and get the main rooms clean i dont touch our bedrooms i said we will do them tuesday.Ha ha tuesday i laid around i took 2 naps i was so give out i just couldnt get with it!!!! so here i was feeling guilty if my dh came home i would die he had to leave looking at the mess and i sure didnt want him to come home to a mess.So the bedrooms are a mess so wensday i get up and we get them cleaned well my oldest did hers the younger one is still working on hers.I will probaly have to go in there and do it my self and it makes me so mad!!!!I clean it up and then bam they dont care.I have tried to just let it set there and It just gets worse.And looks bad on my part i just dont know what to do.i have tried spanking taking things away to grounding her.she is almost 8 she can clean her room.Are things perfect no there still some things that need to be done a good scrub but at least it is good to they eye just dont open the cabniets i so neeed to go threw them.It seems as if i clean but it still doesnt look clean why is that?Any one got any tips.
Saturday, July 14, 2007
Friday night
My dh made it home.What a great way to start the week end.I got to go to a ladies meeting and let me tell you God showed up.Man it was so good it was one of those were you cry so hard your head hurts.It was so worth the head hurting.I cant wait till sunday now.God is so faithful.It is so nice to know he is only a prayer away.and not just a prayer but a heart felt humble prayer.He is my best freind.He will never leave you nor forsake you.How great is that.I can not even begin to put into words how i feel about the Lord and what all he has done for me and my family.HE has given me a joy like i have never known a peace that is unspeakable.A love that goes so deep for others that it dont seem real.I stand amazed is about all i can say.
Friday, July 13, 2007
COMMMENTS ARE WELCOMED
A friend and i was talkeing and she gets so many hits on her blog but not many comments are left.She has an awesome blog might i add.Me being new to this i see the same thing people stop by and read but no comments left why is that?Well i thought why not blog to let others know comments are so welcomes even if they are annyomous.I love to here from others and it gives me a chance to look at others blogs also.Comments are always welcomed and i enjoy reading what othera have to say and think.so please feel welcome to post .
Thursday, July 12, 2007
I CANT WAIT TILL FRIDAY
Friday just cant get here fast enough.My dh will be home.I have so much i need to do before he gets home.like wash our bed covers i hope to have the laundry room painted.Floors mopped.Its 5:00 here and i need this done by tonight.will i get done?I don't know but we will see.As of right now the kids are driving me crazy and i mean crazy the little ones are into everything.I cant get nothing done well i do and then they go threw like a tornado.Like i said they are driving me crazy.okay i better run i have so much to do and the kids are going crazy in there.Time to go be a referee.one of the many hats i wear.
Wednesday, July 11, 2007
PART 7 THE LAST ROUND WITH CANCER
I was holding her had as i told her i would I prayed as all the nurses gathered around aloud and i don't do that But God showed up and filled that room and as she meet the Lord when her last breath was taken my soul shouted i mean it was like my inside screamed Glory!!!!!! And my heart started singing what a day that will be when my Jesus i shall see when i look upon His face the one who saved me by his grace.when He takes me by the hand and leads me to that promise land what a day glorious day that will be.SO i new when she meet him and had crossed that old chilly Jordan river.Because he put that song in my heart at that very moment.So now my mom was healed and here i was dieing inside cancer was affecting me in ways i could not see.IT was lurking around my dreams and thoughts.as i would close my eyes i would see it. i would see every thing it had done in that last 3 years the hurt the pain the sickness.It was like it wouldn't stop. it was taking control over me running my life no one seen what it had done to me not even my hubby .still to this day I don’t think he knows what it did to me. I was in the fight still after she was gone it was affecting me and my family my kids and hubby even my walk with the Lord. I had fought it for almost 2 more years after my mom passed. It had eat at me and eat at me. Then I finally laid it down I seen I had no control the only one who did was the Lord not me. I realized I didn’t have to fight this thing called cancer any more the Lord would do it for me. And he did and he won so there for I won .yes I did I won the battle. Cancer no longer has a hold on me. God is the only thing that has a hold on me. So that is my fight against cancer.
PART 6 THE FINAL DAYS
i will go with her till she meets Him.every morn i see her sitting up smiling out the window she says she talked with the Lord.Oh how it brings a smile to my face.things start to go down .AS i wash her and i clean the tumors my heart breaks.as i so carefully clean these tumors i hate them so and yet i have to treat them with the care of a newborn baby.my mom would Lay there and rub her hands up and down her chest not touching it just over it begging me to cut them out she would cry they burn they burn.please cut them out.All i could do was beg God please make them stop.I wanted to make them stop so bad here i am fighting inside against something i can not control in any way.you could put you hand above her chest and feel the heat coming from the tumors.My moms breast cancer was a rare aggressive kind she was blessed to have fought it for 3 years.It came to the surface and would bust open she said her chest felt like some one had a blow torch in there.the tumors had taken over they were from her neck down to her waste and had started to move to her shoulders and down her back.her chest looked like burnt leather.i wish i could have took the pain away.It got to were we could no longer control it at home and we were able to get her in to a hospice group.They came to get her and that was the last time she was able to speak to me and she looked into my eyes and it was like our souls were talking she said I'm scared!!!That killed me you don't think at 27 you will have to hear your mom say in voice so soft and pure almost pure like a child's I'm scared and see that it is coming straight from the soul.No one was riding with her she was alone.And i had promised her i would be there.SO there was a war going on inside of me.Needles to say all this had been going on for a week. June the 26 she went into the hospital and came home that Friday and was with me from Friday till Wednesday when she left to go to hospice.When i got to the place they had her on a pump for the pain and she was out.she tried and tried to open her eyes and couldn't at one point she did and was able to mumble she loved me.Then back out she went.As i sit beside her cleaning the tumors they are making me sick its like they were multiplying.i payed and prayed God you have to something i could not take any more.But as i prayed that i still did not want to let go.That was my momma she was 51 she was not suppose to die i was suppose to have my momma till i got old.Well fin aly on that Friday I came to a place with the Lord it was right after lunch i sat there wiping the blood from my moms mouth her lungs were feeling up fast.It was then That the Lord showed up I had begged him to heal her and i believed he would i just wanted it to be on this side and not in Heaven but he thought Heaven was a better place to heal her .So you see she git her healing it was just as she went to meet Jesus he gave her a new body.NO cancer up there IT was gone he had won the Battle against it up in heaven .Okay i prayed at that moment Lord i can t do this Any more i Let her go i told her it was okay to go i would be okay.
PART 5
It had to see my mama my heart was racing and i was mad needless to say i was not going to let this cancer do this she wanted to come home and she was.If i could have went onto a boxing ring with cancer i would have killed it i had so much anger and hate along with hurt in me i could have done damage just wiped it out!!!!well so i thought i could.As i r=write this i play that night over i remember it all every detail as i sit here i can feel all those emotions i can even smell what it smelled like at that point in time.We get there and she is out i hit my knees and beg God please just let her come to so i can tell her i love her one last time.she was hanging on by a thread .My pastor had called me and the my associate pastor and they were all praying.I knew there were some people that were getting a hold of God.They were ringing heavens bell.I could fell the prayers as they were going up.You could see my mom fighting hard she was trying her best to open her eyes but she couldn't you would see her eyebrows go up she was fighting hard and in my heart i was fighting to .Then my son woke up and i laid him next to her and said momma Christopher is here he is laying beside you and i want you to know he can see the Lord has touched him momma.she really started to fight as he laid next to her and it was like in a split second she had opened her eyes.The joy that i felt was so UN real the docs couldn't believe it. her blood pressure was 60 over 40 she was out.There is just one thing God was in control not me not the doc but he was.there is something in the innocence of a child a pureness a child that has faith and trust the Lord a child that has no fears God used that baby in his pureness to touch her i believe like the woman that had the blood disorder that said if i can just touch the hem of his garment.I seen God touch my mom at that very moment.when she couldn't come to him He came to her.Here is were me and cancer came face to face.My mom got just well enough to bring her home. i flew home got the room ready to bring my mommy home.she arrived in the transport van. When the pulled her out i looked deep into her eyes and said momma your home.She smiled the happiest smile you had ever seen.i sit by her side day in and day out feed her and bathe her. I pray with her she looks at me and says i don't want to go alone as she hols my hand i Tell her i want let go i will hole on to her till Jesus take g=her hand.
PART 4 THE NEWS WAS....................
HE CAN SEE!!!!!HE CAN SEE BETTER THAN WHAT MOST BABY'S CAN AT THAT AGE!!!!PRAISE THE LORD!!!!GOD HAD Answered prayers someone had got threw to him and he reached down and touched my boy.
so here it was the 4 year mark of my mother in laws passing and we got some great new.Our son was healed.God had done it again he had made the blind to see.People think he still don't do miracles like that any more well he does i have a 2 year old that proves that with eagle eyes.I call my mom to share the news and something wasn't right she wasn't acting right i new something was wrong i begged her to go to the doc she had moved 2 hours away from me.So i couldn't just run over to here House any more.she said she had had chemo and was just sick so i said i will call and if thing ain't better I'm coming up there to take you my self.The next day i call and she don't sound any better sh tells me i have an apt Monday so i said i will ride up and go with her. She said okay and then started to cry saying i just want to come home so i said i will be there Monday and get you and you Will live with me and i will be happy to drive you to all your apts that are were she was living .I knew this thing was fighting hard and i knew i was going to bring my mom home and it wasn't going to stop me.the nest day which was a Sunday i get in from church and the doc calls and says i need to get up there my mom want make it threw the night.my heart stopped she was out she couldn't talk at all.So here i was me and my sis and my 4 month old was on our 2 hour trip to get to mama.
so here it was the 4 year mark of my mother in laws passing and we got some great new.Our son was healed.God had done it again he had made the blind to see.People think he still don't do miracles like that any more well he does i have a 2 year old that proves that with eagle eyes.I call my mom to share the news and something wasn't right she wasn't acting right i new something was wrong i begged her to go to the doc she had moved 2 hours away from me.So i couldn't just run over to here House any more.she said she had had chemo and was just sick so i said i will call and if thing ain't better I'm coming up there to take you my self.The next day i call and she don't sound any better sh tells me i have an apt Monday so i said i will ride up and go with her. She said okay and then started to cry saying i just want to come home so i said i will be there Monday and get you and you Will live with me and i will be happy to drive you to all your apts that are were she was living .I knew this thing was fighting hard and i knew i was going to bring my mom home and it wasn't going to stop me.the nest day which was a Sunday i get in from church and the doc calls and says i need to get up there my mom want make it threw the night.my heart stopped she was out she couldn't talk at all.So here i was me and my sis and my 4 month old was on our 2 hour trip to get to mama.
PART 3 MY FIGHT AGAINST CANCER
yes i said baby boy after 3 girls we were having a boy .Might i add the Lord is Good even when we are low he is so GOOD! My dh got another job we were struglling but it was okay so i thought.That december right before my son was to be born my mom was given 6 months to live.Needless to say she did not tell me or any one.She new i was a hight risk and did not want me upset.She did start making planns .I thought she was just trying to get things in order so we would not have to do anything when the time did caome much much latter on.That feb the 6 I had my son and man was he handsome a spitting image of his dad.There are somethings that remind me of my mom like his dark dark skin he got it from my mom .SHe was part indian.I rember when she ould come stay alll night with me she would just hold him and look at him and cry.she knew she would not get to watch him grow up. Were as me i thought it was just that she was so happy we finally had a boy.We soon learned that my son his eyes were not devloped. he couldnt see.We done what we only new to do turn to God and trust him.Here i was in this fight for my family my dh and his hurt and my mom and now my son.man it seemed like this Cancer thing was hitting me left and right i couldnt get away. I wanted so bad at times to run run hard and as fast as i could.But i couldnt i was in this fight till the end and i was determind to win. i remeber the day it was june 24 the day my mother in law had passed away it had been 4 years.We took my son to back to they eye doc to get the final results.he was getting ready to be 5 months old.We got The news... ARE YOU READY TO HEAR WHAT IT WAS????????????
PART 2
Not only did cancer affect my mother in law it hurt my dear hubby and one of the sweetest sister in laws a person could ever ask for.One that Loves the Lord with her whole heart and walks daily with him.So you see cancer had done crossed the line with me it was war it had hurt 3 close people to me and now had started on my mom!!!!!Needless to say me and that nasty thing ain't friends at all.As things seem after my moms first removal of right breast we thought we can do it we are going to win this.well what do you know a year after she found out she had this nasty thing .My sweet girl Bethany grace was born. i was so thankful my mom was able to be there i just wish my mother in law could have been.Actually she was my little Bethany grace looks so much like her and her dad it ain't funny.if you seen my other 2 you would see why they look just like me.blond hair well mine ain't no more and blue eyed.well Bethany grace has brown hair and brown eyes when i look at her i see my mother in law. she was born 6 days before Nana's b-day so i think Nana is all in Bethany you see it in the eyes.okay the story continues my dh company had shut there doors and he got another job well a year after Bethany was born what do you know we find out we are having another one!!!!!We were shocked i mean shocked we thought we were done after the 3rd and all the thing that we had to do to get her here.well The Lord blessed us yet again.Then my dh comes home one day and i thought we were on our way up 3 kids another on the way my mom was doing good he had a job then bam he comes home and says he lost his job!!!WHAT i thought you better be telling me a joke.well it wasn't a joke.so here i was preg with our 4th child and trying to be by my moms side as she was fighting this thing we call cancer.i was due to have my baby boy Feb 22 2005.
MY FIGHT AGAINST CANCER PART ONE
Here is just s few of the things that I have to say about cancer. First I hate it!!!! I hate every thing about it. Do I have cancer no I don’t have I ever had it no. I pray to God that I never do .I have fought against this ugly thing for the last 5 years!!!! You see cancer came to know me in many ways. Our battle began the first round that is 5 years and a month ago. Here me and my dh were trying to have our 3rd child which we only had a 10% chance to have. And blame cancer came to our front door. My dh mom started having blood clots she looked fine. Well with in 2 weeks she went home to be with the Lord it turned out she had adenoma carcinoma lung cancer. I seen my dh go to the lowest place in his life. I was very close with my mother in law she was like a mom to me. she was very active in our life's.It was a suden hit .After her passing my mother got diagnosed with breast cancer.I mean a week with in each other.So as you see this was the start of a long fight..As i prepared myself well so i thought her i was standing by mom moms side as she battles this ugly thing.What do you know the Lord blessed us with another little girl.So her we were my dh lost his mom to cancer then his company shut there doors and his wife was finally preg with there 3rd child.What were we going to do.And on top of me finally being preg my mom has cancer.so the battle is on!!!You see me i hate that stuff i hate it from deep with in my soul.
I WILL POST THE REST IN PARTS THIS WAS REALLY LONG SO I THOUGHT IT WOULD BE EASIER TO READ IN PARTS.
I WILL POST THE REST IN PARTS THIS WAS REALLY LONG SO I THOUGHT IT WOULD BE EASIER TO READ IN PARTS.
Tuesday, July 10, 2007
Part 2 of the past 2 years.
Well it was a night i will never forget.After praying for hours i felt that heavy load go away.I knew things were different.My dh travels with his job so he was away during this time and of coarse we were still fighting like crazy.There is one thing i know.When you get real with the Lord he shows up.That next day my 3 year old was jumping on the trampoline not hard at all.Then all of a sudden you here her scream.I run out and call my dh.He is in ca at the time.I run her to the er and what do you know she has broke her leg right under her knee cap.So her i was alone with 4 kids my dh in ca and he cant get a flight home and my 3 year ole with a broke leg in a cast that covers her entire leg.Well lets just say it was hard but during that time the Lord showed me so much.Here i was alone no one to share this heavy load my mom gone my dh traveling and me alone with 4 kids from age 10 down to 2.I couldn't figure out what the Lord was doing but in knew he was doing something.Well after that long 6 weeks i seen what he was doing he was making me lean on him.I had no one but him the way the Lord wants it .He wants us to lean on him.Since that march day he has done so much for me.Threw all that he has given me a joy that i can not put into words.A love for my dh like i have ever known.and my kids.I have been with my dh for around 16 years and Iam more in love with him today then i have ever been.All this by trusting the Lord and leaning on him He has taken the fears and hurt away.Now when my dh leaves instead of thanking God he is gone and dreading when he comes home. I cant wait till he gets home i miss him so much. I love to just be with him.I cant wait to grow old and sit with him and laugh.So in a nut shell threw the loss of my mom and the fighting of my dh and I.The breaking of my daughters leg.The Lord has showed me i need to only serve Him and make Him happy no one Else i need to live for him.My joy doesn't come from others or things it comes from the Lord.
New to this and Loving it
Okay I'm so new to this and I'm learning so much.don't laugh Jeannie!!!1can you believe it me figuring these things out by myself and a Little help from other.which i must say thanks to.This is one of the best ways a stay at home mom can reach out talk to others with like interest and get ideas. while posting her own.Man I'm so loving every thing about this.I'm so use to my dh doing so many things for me that it is a GREAT feeling doing this on my own.I depend on my dh a lot.I m always so unsure or afraid i will mess things up or do something wrong.Well look at ME now I'm doing it!!!!!yeah me!!!! I know yall think that this is crazy .If you only new.well I'm off to try to get something done i have my tackle it Tuesday to do .I'm just so happy.
Shelter, Isolate or Inoculate???
Are there parents who believe in isolating their children? Yes. Are there parents who believe in sheltering their children? Yes. What is the difference between “isolating” and “sheltering”?
“Isolationists”
In some families around the country, parents are raising their children under the belief that the very best thing for them is to “isolate” them from the world. What does this actually mean? Well, to “isolate” means: 1. An aisle or and island. 2. To place in a detached situation. 3. To place by itself. 4. To insulate.
Many isolationists truly believe that they are following the Lord. We have read many letters from people who have raised their children with the idea that any type of outside influence, besides that of the parent, should be avoided at all costs. They believed that children were not able to handle the dangers that surround them in this world and so they pulled them from the world and kept them separate from it. They used the Scriptures which say to “come out and be separate”.
An isolationist’s children are kept from the company of other children, unless the parent is there at all times interacting, also, and keeping an eye on the children. The family usually stays together at all times and only interacts with one another or other families who believe exactly the same way. The reason they do this is because they believe there is so much sin in people and in the world around them, that they must keep their children away from it, lest they learn it from others. A bit like a virus that you can catch.
We have three families who wrote us requesting our thoughts on the subject. All said approximately the same thing, that they isolated their children as they were growing up but when their older children reached a certain age, they left their homes in rebellion. Each young adult couldn’t get away from their parents quick enough and soon after they left either started picking up bad habits of smoking and drinking, or worse, became involved with drugs.
They now question whether “isolating” their children was a Biblical solution to child training as the end result did not build a Godly character.
“Sheltering”
The next form of child training is where the parents have an attitude of “sheltering” their children.
Let’s look up what SHELTERING means:
1. To cover from violence, injury, annoyance or attack. 2. To defend; to protect from danger; to secure or render safe; to harbor. 3. To take to cover or a safe place.
If you are any type of a God-fearing parent at all, you are going to want to shelter your children from harm. Whether that harm comes in the form of physical, mental or spiritual, you will want to protect them! This is from God. God has given our small children into our keeping to care for them and to train them in His ways so they will be able to serve Him when they grow up.
First, God shelters us! It is in His very being to protect us from danger. This is the reason why He gave us the commandments to obey. Through our obedience we would be safe from harm. He also shelters us when we seek Him in prayer.
Psalms 61 “Hear my cry, O God; attend unto my prayer. From the end of the earth will I cry unto thee, when my heart is overwhelmed; lead me to the rock that is higher than I. For thou hast been a shelter for me, and a strong tower from the enemy. I will abide in thy tabernacle forever; I will trust in the covert of thy wings. Selah. (Vs. 1-4)
What is the difference between isolating and sheltering? There are many differences.While isolating a child keeps him from others, a parent who shelters will give opportunity for their children to learn and grow from others. They will place them in an environment where other people will come into their lives and they will be exposed to different attitudes, actions, and beliefs. When they are exposed to something that the parent sees is against their Biblical standards, they train and teach their children what is wrong versus what God would have them do or think. This is to prepare them for later on in life when mother and father will no longer be around to shelter them from danger. They will have to be aware and awake without the help of their parents to keep an eye out for what is “dangerous”.
Herein is a huge difference, the sheltering mentality teaches children what “dangers” in life to look for. The isolationists keeps their child insolated so they never see danger and will never know what to look for when they are released into the real world of adulthood. In a way they are thought to be kept in a clean, virus-free, sin-free, bubble at home, never to be tainted by sin carried in by others.
One very big problem with the isolationist’s theory… sin isn’t something you catch. Sin is inborn in each of us and only the blood of Jesus Christ can cleanse us from this disease of death.
So what should we do as parents who want our children to make right choices as they live in this world?
“Inoculation”
Christian parents are to shelter and protect their children from harm and at the same time train them to be “inoculated” against the world.
This inoculation takes place as we daily point out to them what the world is saying is true and then showing them what God’s Word says. It is a constant time of teaching them and training them in Biblical values vs. secular humanism that bombards them from every media surrounding them.
It is imperative that parents teach their children the “dangers” that they will face. Just as God has placed in animals in the jungle the instinct to sniff and smell out danger, so has God placed parents to train their children to watch out for “sin” dangers. We cannot place our heads in the sands like ostriches and walk in fear of the world. We are only to fear God, not man.
One of the main goals for our children to strive for, is to be a person that can be in the world and see the hurt and the pain and suffering of the lost, and to be able to lead them to Christ, without any spiritual harm coming to them. This is possible by being inoculated through the blood of Jesus Christ living in them. They must have a saving knowledge ALL THEIR OWN, not just their parent’s, of Jesus Christ, our Savior.
Christ, through the guidance and teaching of the Holy Spirit, will then lead these children through the hidden minefields of life. He alone will be the one to keep them safe when they leave the safety of the home. It is our job, while we have them, to shelter them, yes, but to also prepare them to leave in the arms and safety of the Lord, the moment they are born. They are not ours. They are God’s. It is our duty to not have their world only be their parents. This is total selfishness on the parent’s part. We are to get them ready to help souls that are lost and who are to find their way to Christ. This is why our children are alive. Not to serve us as parents, but to serve our Heavenly Father.
Here is what Jesus calls us to train our children to do:
31When the Son of man shall come in his glory, and all the holy angels with him, then shall he sit upon the throne of his glory: 32And before him shall be gathered all nations: and he shall separate them one from another, as a shepherd divideth his sheep from the goats: 33And he shall set the sheep on his right hand, but the goats on the left. 34Then shall the King say unto them on his right hand, Come, ye blessed of my Father, inherit the kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the world: 35For I was an hungred, and ye gave me meat: I was thirsty, and ye gave me drink: I was a stranger, and ye took me in: 36Naked, and ye clothed me: I was sick, and ye visited me: I was in prison, and ye came unto me. 37Then shall the righteous answer him, saying, Lord, when saw we thee an hungred, and fed thee? or thirsty, and gave thee drink? 38When saw we thee a stranger, and took thee in? or naked, and clothed thee? 39Or when saw we thee sick, or in prison, and came unto thee? 40And the King shall answer and say unto them, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me. 41Then shall he say also unto them on the left hand, Depart from me, ye cursed, into everlasting fire, prepared for the devil and his angels: 42For I was an hungred, and ye gave me no meat: I was thirsty, and ye gave me no drink: 43I was a stranger, and ye took me not in: naked, and ye clothed me not: sick, and in prison, and ye visited me not. 44Then shall they also answer him, saying, Lord, when saw we thee an hungred, or athirst, or a stranger, or naked, or sick, or in prison, and did not minister unto thee? 45Then shall he answer them, saying, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye did it not to one of the least of these, ye did it not to me. 46And these shall go away into everlasting punishment: but the righteous into life eternal.
If we are afraid of the world, how can we do what He has called us to do? We CAN do it because of HIS blood. His blood causes that death virus of sin to die and then we can live in Him! We can then do His will, not our own! This is what our children are to be taught so that they can go into all the world and preach the gospel…. And maybe sometimes even speak.
God’s blessings,
Monday, July 9, 2007
Casting "Public Education Theology" from the Home
here is something i read about the issue i hope you enjoy
Remember when you first heard of home education? You may have thought it was a bit strange, but when the Lord started nudging your heart you may have given in to this new conviction with trepidation and a little bit of fear.
"Can I do this? Am I going to ruin my children for life? Is this the right thing to do?" you may have asked yourself a dozen times. Then the Lord graciously started building you up with His strength and you finally learned that you can do ANYTHING through Christ who strengthens you, including home educating your children!
So, it's time to begin. How do we begin? We look around at how other families are home educating their children and grasp onto any straws that we can find in this alien adventure. We attend support groups, look at curriculum at the annual home school conventions in our area, listen to speakers on the subject and buy every book and tape we can find on the subject.
The average beginning home educator usually purchases a full curriculum from one of the major private school suppliers. She decorates an actual classroom and has desks and even a chalkboard. Now there is nothing wrong with any of this, but where did the idea come from? Possibly from her own personal experience that she had in school. 99.9% of all home educators start off the same way, setting up an educational system in their own home that mimics the one that they are trying to get away from, simply because it's all we know and because we don't know what else to do.
There has to be an answer. God wouldn't call and convict so many parents to train their children themselves and to educate them in a Christian manner. We require our own children in high school to read John Taylor Gatto's book, "The Underground History of American Education" as one of their history lessons. This book was such an educational eye opener that my wife and I have never been able to look at school the same way again, and to teach our own children with different goals than we have ever had before. For an example, let me quote part of a short essay that Mr. Gatto wrote for the Wall Street Journal titled "Quit, I Think". He was New York State Teacher of the Year at the time.
"Government schooling is the most radical adventure in history. It kills the family by monopolizing the best times of childhood and by teaching disrespect for home and parents. The whole blueprint of school procedure is Egyptian, not Greek or roman. It grows from the theological idea that human value is a scarce thing, represented symbolically by the narrow peak of a pyramid.
That idea passed into American history through the Puritans. It found its "scientific" presentation in the bell curve, along which talent supposedly apportions itself by some Iron Law of Biology. It's a religious notion, School is its church. I offer rituals to keep heresy at bay. I provided documentation to justify the heavenly pyramid.
Socrates foresaw if teaching became a formal profession, something like this would happen. Professional interest is served by making what is easy to do seem hard; by subordinating the laity to the priesthood. School is to vital a jobs-project, contract giver and protector of the social order to allow itself to be reformed. It has political allies to guard its marches, that's why reforms come and go without changing much. Even reformers can't imagine school much different. (Homeschoolers are reformers also, and they have a difficult time coming up with anything different than the public school format.)
David learns to read at age four; Rachel, at age nine: In normal development, when both are 13, you can't tell which one learned first - the five year spread means nothing at all. But in school I label Rachel "Learning disabled" and slow David down a bit, too. For a paycheck, I adjust David to depend on me to tell him when to stop. He won't outgrow that dependency. I identify Rachel as discount merchandise, "special education" fodder. She'll be locked in her place forever.
In 30 years of teaching kids rich and poor I almost never met a learning disabled child; hardly ever met a gifted and talented one either. Like all school categories, these are sacred myths, created by human imagination. They derive from questionable values we never examine because they preserve the temple of schooling.
That's the secret behind short answer tests, bells, uniform time blocks, age grading, standardization, and all the rest of the school religion punishing our nation. There isn't a right way to become educated; there are as many ways to fingerprints. We don't need state-certified teachers to make education happen - that probably guarantees it won't.
How much more evidence is necessary? Good schools don't need more money or a longer year; they need real free market choices, variety that speaks to every need and runs risks. We don't need a national curriculum or national testing either. Both initiatives arise from ignorance of how people learn or deliberate indifference to it. I can't teach this way any longer. If you hear of a job where I don't have to hurt kids to make a living, let me know. Come fall I'll be looking for work."
Mr. Gatto boldly goes on to say that institutionalized education hurts children, dumbs them down, and is purposely aiming at educating students to "serve" rather than to ever have an entrepreneur spirit.
How do we "educational reformers" successfully learn to educate our children? The Bible tells us to teach our children God's principles as we walk along throughout our day, as we lay down to sleep, and just live our lives together. Deut. 6:6-9. The Bible doesn't ever give us an example of "boxed education".
What did our homeschooling ancestors, such as Abe Lincoln, George Washington and many other presidents do for education?
First, they were not in institutionalized learning centers. They were taught with the belief in mind that each young person was expected to make something of themselves, to be a business owner or have some type of skill that would be necessary to others. Today, this "making something of oneself" is a theology that is basically extinct except among the most radical of reformers.
Traditionally, many young American men were taught in small rooms with a few other children and after they reached the age of 11 or 12, they were sent out into the community to apprentice with the tradesmen. Some would go on to work and then take over a business, others were off to start something brand new. This was the norm of American society in the past.
So, what should the educational reformer of today consider and change? There are some today who are of the persuasion that their children should be educated with basic Reading, Writing, and Arithmetic. After they are proficient at these, they are guided towards starting their own businesses. Some young men have grown successful gardening, mowing and landscaping businesses and gross over $60,000 a year. Did I forget to tell you that they were only 14 when they acquired this income? Or a 16 year old who started his own graphic art business and makes over $40,000 working part time from his bedroom computer?
Why do we send our kids to school? To get a job and to be socialized. If a teenager starts his own business and works with the public not only will he have achieved the basic goal of education, but he will also have to learn how to deal with many different types of personalities and how to get along with all of them.
If you are one of many homeschooling parents who are asking themselves regarding education, "Isn't there something MORE for my children than THIS?" Then maybe you should start researching the aspect of entrepreneurship for children. Not only is it fascinating for both adults and children, it also keeps our teens busy and out of trouble.
There are wonderful books on the market today. When our children turn 13, we teach them to read books on managing money, management skills, how to start your own business, and so on. If you go to the internet and do a Google search, you can pull up many months worth of reading material.
Getting out of the "boxed" mentality of institutionalized education isn't easy. Our thoughts are so meshed in this philosophy that it takes a bit to grab hold of something different.
Pray and ask our Heavenly Father to lead and guide you and to give you a vision for what He wants for your children. It will not be the same for everyone. Just as each of us are made very uniquely and special, so will our interests vary. Be patient and always keep your eyes open and soon the Lord will show you what He desires for your life.
Remember when you first heard of home education? You may have thought it was a bit strange, but when the Lord started nudging your heart you may have given in to this new conviction with trepidation and a little bit of fear.
"Can I do this? Am I going to ruin my children for life? Is this the right thing to do?" you may have asked yourself a dozen times. Then the Lord graciously started building you up with His strength and you finally learned that you can do ANYTHING through Christ who strengthens you, including home educating your children!
So, it's time to begin. How do we begin? We look around at how other families are home educating their children and grasp onto any straws that we can find in this alien adventure. We attend support groups, look at curriculum at the annual home school conventions in our area, listen to speakers on the subject and buy every book and tape we can find on the subject.
The average beginning home educator usually purchases a full curriculum from one of the major private school suppliers. She decorates an actual classroom and has desks and even a chalkboard. Now there is nothing wrong with any of this, but where did the idea come from? Possibly from her own personal experience that she had in school. 99.9% of all home educators start off the same way, setting up an educational system in their own home that mimics the one that they are trying to get away from, simply because it's all we know and because we don't know what else to do.
There has to be an answer. God wouldn't call and convict so many parents to train their children themselves and to educate them in a Christian manner. We require our own children in high school to read John Taylor Gatto's book, "The Underground History of American Education" as one of their history lessons. This book was such an educational eye opener that my wife and I have never been able to look at school the same way again, and to teach our own children with different goals than we have ever had before. For an example, let me quote part of a short essay that Mr. Gatto wrote for the Wall Street Journal titled "Quit, I Think". He was New York State Teacher of the Year at the time.
"Government schooling is the most radical adventure in history. It kills the family by monopolizing the best times of childhood and by teaching disrespect for home and parents. The whole blueprint of school procedure is Egyptian, not Greek or roman. It grows from the theological idea that human value is a scarce thing, represented symbolically by the narrow peak of a pyramid.
That idea passed into American history through the Puritans. It found its "scientific" presentation in the bell curve, along which talent supposedly apportions itself by some Iron Law of Biology. It's a religious notion, School is its church. I offer rituals to keep heresy at bay. I provided documentation to justify the heavenly pyramid.
Socrates foresaw if teaching became a formal profession, something like this would happen. Professional interest is served by making what is easy to do seem hard; by subordinating the laity to the priesthood. School is to vital a jobs-project, contract giver and protector of the social order to allow itself to be reformed. It has political allies to guard its marches, that's why reforms come and go without changing much. Even reformers can't imagine school much different. (Homeschoolers are reformers also, and they have a difficult time coming up with anything different than the public school format.)
David learns to read at age four; Rachel, at age nine: In normal development, when both are 13, you can't tell which one learned first - the five year spread means nothing at all. But in school I label Rachel "Learning disabled" and slow David down a bit, too. For a paycheck, I adjust David to depend on me to tell him when to stop. He won't outgrow that dependency. I identify Rachel as discount merchandise, "special education" fodder. She'll be locked in her place forever.
In 30 years of teaching kids rich and poor I almost never met a learning disabled child; hardly ever met a gifted and talented one either. Like all school categories, these are sacred myths, created by human imagination. They derive from questionable values we never examine because they preserve the temple of schooling.
That's the secret behind short answer tests, bells, uniform time blocks, age grading, standardization, and all the rest of the school religion punishing our nation. There isn't a right way to become educated; there are as many ways to fingerprints. We don't need state-certified teachers to make education happen - that probably guarantees it won't.
How much more evidence is necessary? Good schools don't need more money or a longer year; they need real free market choices, variety that speaks to every need and runs risks. We don't need a national curriculum or national testing either. Both initiatives arise from ignorance of how people learn or deliberate indifference to it. I can't teach this way any longer. If you hear of a job where I don't have to hurt kids to make a living, let me know. Come fall I'll be looking for work."
Mr. Gatto boldly goes on to say that institutionalized education hurts children, dumbs them down, and is purposely aiming at educating students to "serve" rather than to ever have an entrepreneur spirit.
How do we "educational reformers" successfully learn to educate our children? The Bible tells us to teach our children God's principles as we walk along throughout our day, as we lay down to sleep, and just live our lives together. Deut. 6:6-9. The Bible doesn't ever give us an example of "boxed education".
What did our homeschooling ancestors, such as Abe Lincoln, George Washington and many other presidents do for education?
First, they were not in institutionalized learning centers. They were taught with the belief in mind that each young person was expected to make something of themselves, to be a business owner or have some type of skill that would be necessary to others. Today, this "making something of oneself" is a theology that is basically extinct except among the most radical of reformers.
Traditionally, many young American men were taught in small rooms with a few other children and after they reached the age of 11 or 12, they were sent out into the community to apprentice with the tradesmen. Some would go on to work and then take over a business, others were off to start something brand new. This was the norm of American society in the past.
So, what should the educational reformer of today consider and change? There are some today who are of the persuasion that their children should be educated with basic Reading, Writing, and Arithmetic. After they are proficient at these, they are guided towards starting their own businesses. Some young men have grown successful gardening, mowing and landscaping businesses and gross over $60,000 a year. Did I forget to tell you that they were only 14 when they acquired this income? Or a 16 year old who started his own graphic art business and makes over $40,000 working part time from his bedroom computer?
Why do we send our kids to school? To get a job and to be socialized. If a teenager starts his own business and works with the public not only will he have achieved the basic goal of education, but he will also have to learn how to deal with many different types of personalities and how to get along with all of them.
If you are one of many homeschooling parents who are asking themselves regarding education, "Isn't there something MORE for my children than THIS?" Then maybe you should start researching the aspect of entrepreneurship for children. Not only is it fascinating for both adults and children, it also keeps our teens busy and out of trouble.
There are wonderful books on the market today. When our children turn 13, we teach them to read books on managing money, management skills, how to start your own business, and so on. If you go to the internet and do a Google search, you can pull up many months worth of reading material.
Getting out of the "boxed" mentality of institutionalized education isn't easy. Our thoughts are so meshed in this philosophy that it takes a bit to grab hold of something different.
Pray and ask our Heavenly Father to lead and guide you and to give you a vision for what He wants for your children. It will not be the same for everyone. Just as each of us are made very uniquely and special, so will our interests vary. Be patient and always keep your eyes open and soon the Lord will show you what He desires for your life.
IT HAS BEEN 2 YEARS
WELL IT HAS BEEN 2 YEARS SINCE MY MOM PASSED AWAY FROM BREAST CANCER.IT HAS BEEN A LONG YEAR.THE LORD HAS WORKED IN MANY WAYS IN MY LIFE.I WOULD HAVE NEVER THOUGHT HE WOULD HAVE DONE THE THINGS HE HAS BUT HE HAS.IT WAS AFTER MY MOMS PASSING THAT HE SHOULD ME MANY THINGS.AT FIRST HE BROUGHT A DEAR FRIEND BACK IN TO MY LIFE.I HATE THAT IT TOOK THAT TO MAKE ME REALIZE SO MANY THINGS BUT IT DID.I HAD TO STOP LETTING OTHER PEOPLE MAKE MY MIND UP FOR ME.I HAD TO START LEANING ON GOD AND LISTING TO HIM DRAWING MY STRENGTH FROM HIM.WELL AFTER THE PASSING I WENT THREW THE DARKEST POINT OF MY LIFE.HERE I WAS A MOTHER OF 4 MY SON WAS ONLY 4 MONTHS OLD WHEN SHE PASSED.I WAS STILL NURSING HIM.WELL WHEN I STOPPED MAN DID MY EMOTIONS GO CRAZY.I HIT ROCK BOTTOM.I FLIPPED MY MARRIAGE WAS HANGING ON BY A THREAD.I HAD NO ONE TO TURN TO BUT THE LORD.WHEN MY MOM DIED A LOVE LEFT THIS WORLD LIKE I HAVE OR HAD EVER KNOWN IT WAS AN UNCONDITIONAL LOVE.AND I SO LONGED FOR THAT LOVE. I WOULD HAVE GIVEN ANYTHING JUST TO BE ABLE TO CALL HER AND HERE HER SAY IT WILL ALL BE ALRIGHT . A LOT OF THE TIMES THAT'S ALL I NEEDED TO HER WAS HER SAY THAT AND IT WAS LIKE I KNEW IT WOULD ALL BE ALL RIGHT.WELL AS THAT LONG YEAR WENT BY MY DEAR FRIEND CAME DOWN TO SEE ME SHE KNEW SOMETHING JUST WASN'T RIGHT AND KEEP SAYING THINGS AIN'T RIGHT.WELL SHE WAS RIGHT I HAD FEEL APART.I HAD GONE SO DEEP INTO DEPRESSION THAT I DIDN'T KNOW WERE TO BEGIN WELL I DIDN'T KNOW SHE HAD BEEN THERE BEFORE AND SHE HELPED ME ON THAT LONG JOURNEY TO RECOVERY.I DON'T THINK SHE WILL EVER KNOW WHAT SHE DID.I DID CALL THE DOC GOT SOME MEDS FOR A SHORT TIME AND WAS ON MY WAY TO SEEING THE LIGHT AGAIN.WELL WHEN SHE CAME DOWN MY HOUSE WAS IN A MESS I MEAN A MESS WE HAD TO LOAD HER TRUCK AND MINE WITH CLOTHES THAT HAD TO BE WASHED WE HAULED OFF 2 TRUCK LOAD OF JUNK.IT WAS BAD.THERE WAS NO WAY I COULD HAVE EVER DONE IT MAY SELF I WAS SO EMOTIONALLY ATTACHED TO EVERYTHING.IT TOOK SOME ONE WHO WASN'T TO HELP GET RID OF STUFF.WELL AFTER ALL THAT I FINALLY GOT DOWN WITH THE LORD AND JUST BALLED MY EYES OUT I LET MY ANGER MY HURT AND ALL COME OUT.WELL THE LORD WAS WORKING I JUST DIDN'T SEE IT.WELL THE LORD GAVE MY HUBBY A JOB TRAVELING AND A LOT OF PEOPLE WERE LIKE IS THAT GOOD WITH ALL THE PROBLEMS YOU ARE HAVING. ME I WAS LIKE YES I KNEW I HAD TO TRUST THE LORD.WELL DURING THAT HE SHOWED ME I ONLY HAD HIM AND THAT WAS IT.HE WAS MY EVERYTHING .WELL AS I WAS TRYING TO GROW IN THE LORD I WOULD GET KNOCKED DOWN .IT WAS HARD ME AND MY HUBBY WERE STILL FIGHTING LIKE CRAZY I JUST DIDN'T KNOW WHAT TO DO.WELL I REALIZED I WAS NOT FULLY TRUSTING THE LORD I SAID I WAS BUT I REALLY WASN'T. IT WAS THEN ONE LATE NIGHT I PRAYED TILL THE LORD SHOWED UP AND MAN DID HE EVER I WILL NEVER FORGET THAT NIGHT IT WAS AS CLOSE TO THE FEELING I HAD WHEN I GOT SAVED.IT WAS LIKE I AGED 10 YEARS IN MY WALK WITH THE LORD.AS I PRAYED THAT NIGHT THAT I WANTED THE LORD TO DO WHAT EVER IT TOOK TO GET MY FAMILY BACK ON TRACK.I BURIED IT ALL THAT NIGHT THE HURT FEELINGS ALL THE WRONGS EVERYTHING FROM THE PAST IT WAS FINALLY PUT TO REST.WERE BEFORE I THOUGHT I WAS BURRING IT BUT I WAS ONLY LEAVING THE TOP PART IN THE GROUND WHEN I WOULD WALK AWAY I WOULD GRAB WHAT WAS STICKING OUT AND STICK IT IN MY BACK POCKET SO TO SPEAK. I FINALLY BURIED IT.AND MAN THE DIFFERENCE IT MADE.WELL I BETTER GET OFF AND GO TO BED I WILL FINISH THE REST OF THE 2 YEAR JOURNEY LATTER .STAY TUNED TO SEE WHAT GOD DID NEXT IN MY LIFE AND MY FAMILY.
Friday, July 6, 2007
AT LAST IM BACK IN
MAN IS THIS HARD I TOOK ME 2 DAYS TO GET LOGGED IN..WELL I'M AT THE 2 YEAR MARK SINCE MY MOM PASSED AWAY.I COULDN'T FIGURE OUT WHY I WAS FEELING SO TIRED AND OUT OF IT NOT WANTING TO DO NOTHING.I MEAN NOTHING I HAD NO ENERGY AT ALL.I JUST WANTED TO SLEEP.THEN IT HIT IT IS THE WEEK MY MOM PASSED THE 8TH IS THE DAY.THEN IT CLICKED YOU BODY JUST GOES THREW THAT MOURNING STAGE.SO IT HELPED ME SAY OKAY I CAN GET THREW THIS.I JUST NEED TO SNUGGLE UP TO MT HEAVENLY FATHER RIGHT NOW AND LEAN ON HIM.HE HAS SEEN ME THREW THE LAST 2 YEARS HE WILL SEE ME THREW THE NEXT 2.IT IS WEIRD HOW OUR BODY'S AND MINDS WORK.THEY RELATE THINGS FROM THE PAST WITH WHAT WE ARE DOING TODAY.ALL OF A SUDDEN YOU ARE LIKE MAN THIS IS WHEN THIS HAPPENED OR THIS.
ANOTHER CRAZY THING HAPPENED .MY SISTER CALLS ME OF COURSE IT IS THAT TIME WHEN WE BOTH LOST A GREAT WOMAN.WELL SHE GOES ON TO TELL ME THAT MY 15 YEAR OLD NEPHEW BECAME A MAN ON JULY THE 4TH LIKE SHE WAS BRAGGING.I THOUGHT I WAS GOING TO HIT THE ROOF.IT MADE ME SICK.SHE WAS PROUD OF HIM.SHE SAYS I'M NOT GOING TO TELL HIM TO WAIT BECAUSE I DIDN'T.SO WHAT YOU DON'T WANT YOU KIDS TO MAKE THE SAME MISTAKES YOU DID .WELL I DON'T MIND.AND WHAT ABOUT WHAT THE BIBLE SAYS.I WISH LIKE EVERYTHING I WOULD HAVE WAITED ON MY HUBBY.THAT IS SUCH A PRECIOUS GIFT TO GIVE SOME ONE.IT IS PRICE LESS.SHE SAYS SHE IS SAVED BUT IT SHOWED ME HOW DIFFERENT ME AND HER ARE.IT IS ONE THING TO SAY YOU KNOW THE LORD BUT ANOTHER FOR HIM TO KNOW YOU.AND I THANK GOD THAT HE KNOW ME.I MAY FAIL HIM A LOT AND I'M NOT WHAT I SHOULD BE I'M JUST A SINNER SAVED BY GRACE.I WANT TO GET ON MY SOAP BOX AND LET HER HAVE IT.BUT I JUST SAID I PRAY TO GOD MINE WILL WAIT.AND I'M GOING TO DO EVERYTHING IN MY POWER TO MAKE SURE THEY ARE NEVER ALONE WITH A BOY.IT IS LIKE THE LORD SHOW ME HOW GOOD I DO HAVE IT THAT I HAVE A FAMILY THAT IS SAVED THAT SPENDS THERE TIME AT CHURCH AND AROUND OTHER CHRISTIANS THAT ARE OF LIKE MIND.WE HAD TAKEN THE GIRLS TO THE DRIVE IN TO SEE RATIOUL HOW EVER YOU SPELL IT. THERE WERE SOME PRETEEN GIRLS RUNNING AROUND AND THERE MOMS WERE WITH THEM I LOOKED AT MY DH AND SAID I THANK THE LORD MY PRETEEN DOES NOT ACT LIKE THAT JUST THE WAY THEY CARRY THERE SELF IS SO DIFFERENT.I CANT GET OVER HOW BLESSED I AM.NOT THAT MY KIDS ARE PERFECT.THERE IS SUCH A DIFFERENCE IN THEM AND THE WORLDS IT WAS LIKE THE LORD SMILED DOWN OWN US AND SAID ITS WORTH THE STRAIGHT AND NARROW IT IS WORTH IT.ME AND MY DH JUST GRABBED HANDS AND SMILED AT ONE ANOTHER.IT WAS A LOOK OF MAN GOD IS GOOD.SOMETIME I WISH I COULD HAVE MY ON LITTLE COMMUNITY WERE IT WAS JUST CHURCH AND CHRISTIAN THAT WERE LIKE MINDED AS US.WERE MEN WERE MEN AND WOMEN WERE WOMAN WERE THE DAD WORKED FOR THE FAMILY AND THE WIFE STAYED HOME AND RAISED THE CHILDREN WERE YOU DON'T HAVE PEOPLE SHOWING OFF THERE BODY'S TO OTHERS.I WANT A MODEST PLACE TO LIVE WERE YOU DON'T SEE PEOPLE RUNNING AROUND IN FRONT OF MEN WITH THERE BRAS AND PANTIES ON OR WHAT THEY TRY TO CALL IT A SWIM SUIT PLEASE.IT AIN'T NOTHING BUT BRA AND PANTIES.OKAY I WILL POST MOOR LATTER
ANOTHER CRAZY THING HAPPENED .MY SISTER CALLS ME OF COURSE IT IS THAT TIME WHEN WE BOTH LOST A GREAT WOMAN.WELL SHE GOES ON TO TELL ME THAT MY 15 YEAR OLD NEPHEW BECAME A MAN ON JULY THE 4TH LIKE SHE WAS BRAGGING.I THOUGHT I WAS GOING TO HIT THE ROOF.IT MADE ME SICK.SHE WAS PROUD OF HIM.SHE SAYS I'M NOT GOING TO TELL HIM TO WAIT BECAUSE I DIDN'T.SO WHAT YOU DON'T WANT YOU KIDS TO MAKE THE SAME MISTAKES YOU DID .WELL I DON'T MIND.AND WHAT ABOUT WHAT THE BIBLE SAYS.I WISH LIKE EVERYTHING I WOULD HAVE WAITED ON MY HUBBY.THAT IS SUCH A PRECIOUS GIFT TO GIVE SOME ONE.IT IS PRICE LESS.SHE SAYS SHE IS SAVED BUT IT SHOWED ME HOW DIFFERENT ME AND HER ARE.IT IS ONE THING TO SAY YOU KNOW THE LORD BUT ANOTHER FOR HIM TO KNOW YOU.AND I THANK GOD THAT HE KNOW ME.I MAY FAIL HIM A LOT AND I'M NOT WHAT I SHOULD BE I'M JUST A SINNER SAVED BY GRACE.I WANT TO GET ON MY SOAP BOX AND LET HER HAVE IT.BUT I JUST SAID I PRAY TO GOD MINE WILL WAIT.AND I'M GOING TO DO EVERYTHING IN MY POWER TO MAKE SURE THEY ARE NEVER ALONE WITH A BOY.IT IS LIKE THE LORD SHOW ME HOW GOOD I DO HAVE IT THAT I HAVE A FAMILY THAT IS SAVED THAT SPENDS THERE TIME AT CHURCH AND AROUND OTHER CHRISTIANS THAT ARE OF LIKE MIND.WE HAD TAKEN THE GIRLS TO THE DRIVE IN TO SEE RATIOUL HOW EVER YOU SPELL IT. THERE WERE SOME PRETEEN GIRLS RUNNING AROUND AND THERE MOMS WERE WITH THEM I LOOKED AT MY DH AND SAID I THANK THE LORD MY PRETEEN DOES NOT ACT LIKE THAT JUST THE WAY THEY CARRY THERE SELF IS SO DIFFERENT.I CANT GET OVER HOW BLESSED I AM.NOT THAT MY KIDS ARE PERFECT.THERE IS SUCH A DIFFERENCE IN THEM AND THE WORLDS IT WAS LIKE THE LORD SMILED DOWN OWN US AND SAID ITS WORTH THE STRAIGHT AND NARROW IT IS WORTH IT.ME AND MY DH JUST GRABBED HANDS AND SMILED AT ONE ANOTHER.IT WAS A LOOK OF MAN GOD IS GOOD.SOMETIME I WISH I COULD HAVE MY ON LITTLE COMMUNITY WERE IT WAS JUST CHURCH AND CHRISTIAN THAT WERE LIKE MINDED AS US.WERE MEN WERE MEN AND WOMEN WERE WOMAN WERE THE DAD WORKED FOR THE FAMILY AND THE WIFE STAYED HOME AND RAISED THE CHILDREN WERE YOU DON'T HAVE PEOPLE SHOWING OFF THERE BODY'S TO OTHERS.I WANT A MODEST PLACE TO LIVE WERE YOU DON'T SEE PEOPLE RUNNING AROUND IN FRONT OF MEN WITH THERE BRAS AND PANTIES ON OR WHAT THEY TRY TO CALL IT A SWIM SUIT PLEASE.IT AIN'T NOTHING BUT BRA AND PANTIES.OKAY I WILL POST MOOR LATTER
Tuesday, July 3, 2007
Trying this one more time.
I guess I'm going to give this another try.I have been wanting to find a way to say what i want and let my voice be heard so to say.I have tried different groups but that is not it.it just doesn't seem to hit the spot.A friend of mine bogs a lot so I'm going to give it a shot.so here i am. have you not ever just been to that point to were you have things that you want to say or opinions you want to voice.Then you do and either it ain't the time or place or you just get misunderstood.sometimes the words just don't come out the right way.and once it is out of the mouth you can not take it back.i am a mother of 4 a stay at home mom of 4 who home schools.and there are times i want to say things but i cant to the kids.you know how they know how to push those buttons at the right time.so here i am going to try to let my thought come out on here.thanks for reading.
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