Proverbs 31 the rest of it.

She has EARNED the right to relax and enjoy the fruits of her labors. Many wives are bums, having a welfare mentality, parasiting off their husbands. This is very wrong. A Proverbs 31 woman wants to work with her husband, to make the marriage and family something to be proud of.

Let me also add here at the end of our discussion, that the advice given from Verse 10 through 31 was NOT given to a woman; BUT, to a man, king Lempel (Verse 1). It was advice from a wise mother, given to her son to help him choose the best wife to marry. Perhaps we should call this passage of Scripture, the Proverbs 31 man, since it is advice given to man. Carefully notice the warnings about alcohol given to the husband in Verses 1-9. No alcohol-drinking man deserves a Proverbs 31 wife. Why should he have a good wife to beat, and be abusive to her? So many men who drink beer, live in sin, avoid church, curse in God's name, and chase women...wonder why they can't find a decent wife. Solomon didn't write Proverbs 31. Solomon never could find the woman of his dreams (Ecclesiastes 7:28). Why? Because Solomon had a reputation, a very bad one. All his wives were the lazy whores who wanted his money...take care of us Solomon...and we'll give you the sex you want. Solomon had many lovers; but, he couldn't find the godly wife that he so much desired. Solomon tried to seduce the beautiful Shulamite girl in Song of Solomon; but, she wisely turned him down, and for good reason. Solomon here represents Satan, who tries to seduce us away from Christ.

This whole Chapter describes a woman who loves her husband and children with all her heart, and works to give them the best. Jesus said that all of the Bible is fulfilled in two commands (Matthew 22:38-40): 1) Love God with all thy heart, 2) Love thy neighbor as thyself. Also, in Galatians 5:14. The woman who loves her husband and family doesn't need books, educational courses, or helps. Through DESIRE, she will become everything that her family needs her to be (Proverb 18:1). It's certainly acceptable for a wife to read helpful books, gaining insight from other women who have already proven themselves godly mothers; BUT, it is not necessary. The Word of God is the only Book we need. All the books, videos, and college courses in the world mean nothing if a wife and mother doesn't care.
In conclusion, there is no such thing as a perfect wife, or husband. The key to happiness in a marriage is two people who are mutually committed to making the marriage a success. Many marriages are lopsided, where one spouse shirks their responsibilities, and the other is continually getting upset because of it. This is unfair. A happy marriage requires a team effort between husband and wife. Many husbands are brute tyrants, who won't allow their wives to live. This is true of religious men especially, who are taught that the wife is supposed to be submissive to her husband. Although the Word of God certainly does set forth the man as the head of his household, it doesn't give him any right to be unkind or abusive towards his wife. Many Christian wives are slaves to a religious jerk. I say this kindly. I believe that God wants every wife to be as the woman in Proverbs 31; but, God also expects every husband to be as the husband in Ephesians 5:25-33. Every husband should be an Ephesians 5 man.